A question for some members that has intrigued me for some time

[docrobbysherry]

I'm reading a lot of SOUR GRAPES here!

If u look like a man in lingerie and/or don't like how u look, I'm sorry. But, that has nothing to do with me. I dress for me and I think I look very fem in lingerie or bikinis. If u don't think so, don't look at my pics!
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I see the obvious man in a bikini/undies pics all over the internet. As a straight man, I simply move on as they don't do anything for me. I don't feel the need to criticize the posters, unless they send them to me!

[Rachael Leigh]

This is a good subject and since I'm one who has posted a few in my undies as it were, I have to say for me it's actually kind of scary right before I hit the button to post I think to myself should I do this will they laugh at my pictures or what.
I post them though as an expression of my enjoyment for this part of me. I don't want to attract men and it is a part of this experence we call crossdresding. I mean I actually do wear these items to bed many nights.
I really don't know all the whys but ones for sure is I feel safe posting them here. I Know I can't look sexy like a real GG in mine but I still enjoying my sharing here
Leigh

[Tracii G]

Freedom of expression is the way I look at it.
If you want to wear the sexy underthings and take/share pics then by all means do it,just post them on the appropriate web site.
I have done that in the past and have grown out of that phase in my TG ness.
Did I post pics like that to attract a man? In some ways maybe I did.
If done in good taste those kinds of sexy pics are fine.
The ones where the penis is prominent are not really what I would call good taste but then again some may think otherwise.

[Beverley Sims]

Jennifer,
Those with great bods are proud of what they can do and others I am sure have a particular bent.

I am sure there are 50 shades of straight out there.

[dazzed]

Why post them I couldn't say. However if the lingerie fits I enjoy looking. No matter who's wearing it. Panties are pretty they accentuate, comfy too when they fit.

[MissTee]

I feel posing/posting in lingerie is simply the freedom of individual expression. Also glad we have a forum for that. This from someone who does not take or post pictures. I will add that some here are very good at creating a stunning illusion of the femme form anywhere from fully clothed to scantily clad. I would never be able do that, but I do admire the expression of others who can.

[AmyGaleRT]

I don't do lingerie shots myself; the closest I've come is sharing a few pictures of me in a nightgown, which didn't show off anything "naughty" but still might be considered slightly "naughty." (And my fiancee would still flip if she knew I'd done so!)

I don't begrudge those that do post those pictures, though, even if they're not exactly my thing. If they're OK with showing off, it's their business, and some of them, I'll admit, look quite good in those pictures. Personally, I think I'm "showing off" enough just by posting pictures of myself fully dressed!

- Amy

[Barbara Black]

I don't see what the big deal is being made of this. We dress because of various reasons, and it is exciting to take pictures to see how we turned out, good or bad. Perhaps to show off a bit also when it works. Going further is just an extension of the excitement that we feel and attempt to verify. And as someone said, if you like, don't look.

[Fortuneta]

Kudos kudos Jennifer! I agree with you very much. I enjoy lingerie but do not wish to share that portion of me with others.
Fortuneta

[Barbara Dugan]

This is an interesting and honest question, I am going to answer it on an honest way..I am not straight and I used to post pictures online (no on this site) way more risque than a lingerie shot, my motivation was a form of validation if I could turn on and be desired by a guy then I was doing something right.
Now that I am on a monogamous relationship I dont have the need or desire to post that kind of pics anymore, by the way I still enjoy dressing sexy for my boyfriend but that is just between the two of us

[Tracii G]

Exactly Barbara it should be a personal thing with your partner.
I think most grow out of posting pics like that.

[Gillian Gigs]

Let us face it, we are all sexual beings, where we are on the scale and how we see sexuality is the question. What is a turn on?? Well for some it could be that telltale touch of a lace bra that shows occasionally, or is it the lace trim on a slip that might show below a dress. Some like boobs, some like butts and others like legs, the turn on is different within social groups and cultures. In Africa it is nothing to see a woman breast feeding a baby, so legs are more of a focal point! So what floats your boat??? If it is lingerie, then lingerie shots are a turn on, but what if it is stocking covered legs? Should we stop someone showing photos of their legs? I think that the important question is, is it done tastefully. And yes I have seen some tacky photos on this site, but we have freedom, but let us remember that with freedom comes responcibility! In this case the responcibility to not be tacky!

[TinaZ]

My new ensemble. I hope it's not too revealing.

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[Jeanettew]

why do I wear some lovely lingerie it is because I feel very good wearing it and I am not doing it to attract a man, far from it, and as I like to wear a dress from time to time I think it finishes it of and make me feel good.

[LaurenNZ]

Well said Isabella – I can easily align myself with your comments. Like you, I use photography to portray my ‘in the closet’ persona to gain some sense of confirmation/acceptance of who I am. If I choose to use lingerie photos I ensure they are tasteful and appropriate to the site I am posting too. Luckily most of us have the right to post and to view whatever we like – just as we can choose what sort of persona we want to portray. God help us if we ever lost the choice!!
To each his/her own.

LaurenNZ

[Sierra_juliette]

I have wondered this as well but from an SO's perspective in a way.

To me, this toes the line of cheating if the person posting the lingerie pictures is in a relationship. So it makes me wonder how their SO would feel. I would never share pictures of myself in lingerie, that is reserved for private life moments and would expect the same courtesy from my SO. I can only imagine how upsetting it would be to find out such pictures were shared with others.

I have posted pictures of new outfits or hair/makeup for feedback from friends on social media and can understand those types of pictures but again would never post lingerie pictures.

I do understand those who say they want feedback or opinions her I feel that if this is the case it should be shared with close friends that you can trust the opinions of, not on display for the entire world.

[Teresa]

Sierra,
Do you you consider CDers using this forum as cheating on their partners if they don't know ?
I sometimes feel guilty what I've said on the this site and posted pictures I would never have dreamed of at one time ! In the process I have manged to deal with issues of acceptance and understanding ! The unkind comments are as important as the hand on the shoulder friend !
I thought very hard about posting pictures but it has proved to be away of being comfortable with who I am, I'm now not ashamed of what I look like dressed and have shown people to give them a clearer picture of what CDing means to me.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jenn, I don't post pictures of me in lingerie but the illusion in the mirror is what it is about for me.

[Launa]

Who says some one that was born "male" can not look good in lingerie?
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Yes Candice, your right here but remember most of us don't look like you. A certain small percentage can pull this off but for the majority its a big no.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Seems to me like judgment knows no boundries. You can try to argue the OP was not judging but the very nature of the question and follow on statements shows otherwise.
Seems to me its about somebody saying their way of crossdressing is better than somebody elses. That is the implication of the OP regardless of what was intended.

Would you like reading a thread of a cisgender male complaining and wondering why crossdressers feel the need to emulate women and walk around malls?
I bet a nickel you would be quite put off.

The OP claims that dressing is not provocative...Many people would argue a man emulating a woman down to heels makeup and pantyhose is quite provocative. Who gets to draw that line?? Are you saying its you, not them?
It doesn't work that way.

Some CD's like lingerie, some like to try to pass, some like to go out, some don't, some like posting pictures, some don't. There is nothing more to it unless you want to make judgments about these differences.

[sometimes_miss]

Briefly, I think the reason that a CD'er might post in sexy lingerie can simply be the same reason young women do it (look at all the hot babe pics on flickr and tumblr for example). It makes them feel good. Remember that a whole lot of men here don't understand why they want to crossdress; whether it's because they really don't understand the dynamics of it, or if they don't WANT to accept the reason because we were all brought up in such a society that tells us that for men, it's better to be dead than feminine. I know plenty of women who wear men's work clothing. I don't give them a hassle about it. And so, I don't expect them to give me a hassle if I want to wear sexy female clothing. No, I never post pics. I don't feel the need to. But to paraphrase another famous quote I will defend to the death the right of others to do so if they so desire. Living in a free society is the best thing we have in our lives. Making it truly free for all of us to do what we like (as long as it doesn't impinge on the rights of others) without being criticized about it, is the eventual final step, and I truly hope we reach that before the U.S. implodes from all the evil greedy @$$h01e$ that are making it unstable.

[Rhonda Jean]

I like the lingerie pics. I'd much rather see a pic of an attractive cd in lingerie than a woman. That said...

To me, this toes the line of cheating if the person posting the lingerie pictures is in a relationship. So it makes me wonder how their SO would feel. I would never share pictures of myself in lingerie, that is reserved for private life moments and would expect the same courtesy from my SO. I can only imagine how upsetting it would be to find out such pictures were shared with others.

This is a very important point. I'm not married, but back when I was I still liked the lingerie pics, and took a ton of them of myself. I did not identify as gay back then and would have never cheated on my wife with anyone. Sierra is precisely right, it toes the line. It's soft porn. In fact it's gay soft porn, if there is such a thing. It's probably no more and certainly no less cheating than any other porn, including strip clubs. To me, it's "safe cheating". Nothing's really going to happen physically. It's fantasy. To some, fantasizing about someone else is cheating. When you consider the gay element, that probably ramps up the severity of it. I'm sure that spouses have different levels of tolerance for all of it.

Most of us hold our deepest fantasies very private. It's debatable if theses deeply held private fantasies or tendencies are our true selves. Probably varies. I might publicly claim that something doesn't effect me or even that I'm put off by it while privately and maybe ashamedly being turned on by it. You can't lie to yourself forever.

Several years ago I saw a performance by a male belly dancer. It was the most erotic thing I'd ever seen! He wore the costume and makeup of a woman and looked like a woman. An absolutely stunning woman. But, to me it was far more erotic because I knew he wasn't a woman. It was very interesting to see the reaction of the husbands and boyfriends in the audience. I strongly suspect that their private reaction was much different than their public reaction.

It's undeniable that there's an erotic or sexual aspect to what we do. When you're married, that's very complicated and it's rarely dealt with honestly and openly. A person who is as honest as the day is long about everything else in their lives will lie about this stuff. I'm not sure it's not better that way. I tend to think it is.

[Sierra_juliette]

I don't consider using this forum an act of cheating. Now with that said I would obviously say that some of the friendships that develop may toe that line. My view on lingerie is solely based on my view of how it would be swapped. If the CDers wife were to take and post such pictures for others I can't imagine it would be a happy event in most cases (of course there are always exceptions).

[Nadine Spirit]

Wow Jennifer, you hit a nerve! Personally I agree with you. Though I will say that on a couple of my blog posts I have shown myself in my bra in an attempt to allow people to see what I do to create my decolletage. Even then though I felt extremely self conscious, as I don't want folks to take it the wrong way.

To me, this toes the line of cheating if the person posting the lingerie pictures is in a relationship. So it makes me wonder how their SO would feel. I would never share pictures of myself in lingerie, that is reserved for private life moments and would expect the same courtesy from my SO. I can only imagine how upsetting it would be to find out such pictures were shared with others.

Do you you consider CDers using this forum as cheating on their partners if they don't know ?

I have made my "radical" views quite public here. I think that if you are not willing to share with your spouse what you are up to, in terms of posting pictures, and having conversations with folks, it makes it rather suspect. No, I don't share every single tiny little thing I do with my wife, but I would never have a problem with sharing any of it.

[Di]

If you re-read my post, you will see that I wrote lingerie is "traditionally" worn by women to turn on their man. Denying that truth is putting one's head in the sand.

I wear lingerie for me ....and me only just something special about knowing that beneath my ordinary clothing, I am wearing something outrageous. It changes my posture and my attitude and I know that nobody is in on the secret but me.BUT as far as pictures....we have taken them of each other ....I see it as being empowered and I feel pretty. Nothing racy or sexual.....sexual to me is skin on skin.

I get you think it is only for turning on a man....because thats the way YOU think of it.
There are things I do not get-
like
1.undressing ( nothing wrong with it.... do not care either way ....I just do not get it.
2.your saying dude in a dress....again that is how you see it...you can think of yourself any way you want.( but I did not marry a dude in a dress)

But just trying to say to each their own and everyone has their own ...TRUTH and the way they see things. So maybe for some it is a turn on but for others it might be just how they want to express or see themselves or maybe just maybe .... like me makes me feel empowered.

Denying that truth is putting one's head in the sand.

well your truth is NOT everyones truth.....not everything is black and white.