Thanks for that recent Q&A thread ReineD. At the risk of repeating something I feel must have been said somewhere at this forum, the untruth about "every crossdresser transitions or wants to" is harmful misinformation that espoused way too frequently and loudly from people who should know better, like people in this forum. The untruth about the undeniable desire of all CDers to transition is tremendously harmful to non-transitioning CDers who are trying to eduate their loved ones. One of the immediate, and understandable, fears from spouses is does my husband want to be a women? For a vast majority of the worlds CDers, the evidence I have seen is that this is simply not true. At the same time, folks holding this view are typically directly effected by transitioning, and are seen by CDer's spouses as somewhat of an authority, if only becuase of the shared interest between CDers and TSers of wearing women's clothes. And, it is certainly undeniable that people who transition typically go through phases of self-discovery that may outwardly appear to be the same phases a CD might go through (starting with a few items, passing, out in the world, female name, etc.). It is completely understandable a women would hear that opinion from someone effected by a transition and beleive it wholesale.
If you are someone espousing this viewpoint, first I'll say that I admire the guts it must take to deal with those challenges, and I am on your side. But please consider that you might be feeding misinformation that is making it hard for people, ones with whom you should feel a kindred spirit and who are much more likely than the rest of the world to support you, to educate their own friends and family.