Candace,
I was taking out things from my wife's donation bag before she knew but they were hidden away and not hanging in my wardrobe. I've now come to an arrangement where I ask her before they get passed on, she's OK with that , at least I'm not spending a fortune on clothes and she knows roughly what I'll look like dressed !
As others have said the way you told her about your dressing was a bit drastic , you'll have to let the dust settle and maybe offer to move the clothes if she's unhappy about knowing where they are !
Bringing up the point about your wife's love being instrumental in accepting your dressing, that can go either way, she may have enough feelings for you to see through it or she may say as my wife has that she wants the man she married, she's not a lesbian ! Once they go down that road it's far more difficult to come back from it !
