I've been on HRT for a little over 10 months now. I see my face softening up nicely, and my breasts are growing. I noticed that it seemed as though I am passing much better. I found that I seemed to consistently be gendered properly and mis-gendered less and less over the past 10 months. In fact, from February through April, I was not mis-gendered a single time. I got mis-gendered once or twice during May. Once June arrived, so did the gloom. It's a joke, we have a weather phenomena in L.A. called "June Gloom" where the weather is very overcast for the month of June.
All jokes aside, the real gloom isn't the overcast weather. The real gloom is I have been consistently mis-gendered by strangers since the start of this month, and it coincides with the coming out of Caitlyn Jenner. For the record, I have also been very sick since late April with bronchitis and an annoying cough that just won't go away.
So it makes me wonder, does Caitlyn Jenner's coming out now raise the bar of what it takes to pass? Could what was once considered passable no longer be passable? Now I probably will have to wait another 10 months or even get FFS in order to pass. Remembering that passability is a spectrum not a black and white. It's like I was maybe 80% passable and now I moved to 20% passable with Jenner coming out. And now you had better be 98% passable - 97% could still get you clocked. Or could there be another reason I am getting mis-gendered.
The only strangers who gendered me properly were the people working at the farmer's market on Monday, and the farmers probably aren't watching too much reality TV or news to even be aware of Jenner.
On a side note, sometimes I feel like I'll never pass, it's kinda depressing. I also fear that Jenner's coming out has done more harm than good for our community.
Yeah, I know, just another Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner thread. I posted a thread on the TS forum about Jenner raising the bar for passability.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ar-for-passing
I notice that I seem to be getting mis-gendered pretty consistently since June 1 when Caitlyn came out, while I had been consistently gendered properly in the months leading up to her coming out. You would think that being on HRT for 10 months would improve passability. But this raises another question.
Could Jenner's coming out actually be doing us more harm? Now that people have seen Caitlyn Jenner, for one thing people know what to look for in order to clock us. And there are enough transphobes out there who have been really riled up by Jenner's coming out that they will make it known to us, be it mis-gendering us, mocking us, laughing at us, or even worse, physical violence towards.
I think that there are a few reasons why Caitlyn Jenner's coming out might do us more harm than good, as mentioned on some of the other Jenner threads.
1. Hundreds of millions of male egos have been deflated. Now most men who spot a trans person will, at the very best, mis-gender us. At the very worst, they could harass us, murder us, beat us, deny us employment, fire us from our jobs, or anything else.
2. Women feel threatened by us too. Now women just see us as a bunch of perverts who want to invade women's spaces, or are trying to be a fetishized image of what a man wants a woman to be. This is one thing that a lot of the trans community has trouble with Jenner. Now this images could be getting projected onto the entire trans community.
3. Religious fundamentalists of both genders have their own agendas too. But I think aside from religious fundamentalism, there is something deeper than religious beliefs causing most people to be uncomfortable with us. It's either deflated male egos, women feeling we're a bunch of perverts, or both genders being jealous of us for being authentic while they are stuck living miserable lives. Either way, I see that lots of people of both sexes have become more uncomfortable around us than they used to be.
Could this mean hard times ahead for our community? Could we expect to see a spike in transgender murders in the coming months. Will more of us suddenly lose our jobs in the coming months? Will those of us who needs jobs have an even harder time than ever trying to find work because of being trans? After being mis-gendered so consistently lately after seemingly passing so well for months, I seriously wonder if Caitlyn Jenner's coming out is doing us more harm than good. I also wonder this based on some of the responses I saw on earlier threads too.