I change my answer,, Hey Little Girl,,,, Want some CANDY,,,, Woo,,,Haa,,,Woo,,,,, What did you expect,,lol,,, Or Hot Legs ya wearing me OUT !!!
I change my answer,, Hey Little Girl,,,, Want some CANDY,,,, Woo,,,Haa,,,Woo,,,,, What did you expect,,lol,,, Or Hot Legs ya wearing me OUT !!!
Smile, say hello if we passed each other,noting special.
I know I am supposed to be in guy mode for this scenario but today, walking the street all totted up, instead of walking on the side with the leather bar and antagonising the guys smoking on the sidewalk I chose the other. In the middle of the block, I see two girls [gurls] walking the other way on the other side of the street. Too much traffic for me to run over and high five, sadly. Mind you, I was dressed knee length floral skirt and they were obviously hitting the bars (the shorts were micro, the hair was neon) so it might have been an awkward situation!
I'd say nothing unless they were looking at me and then I'd simply say hello Mam. Same greeting I'd say to a GG. F they wanted to visit then I'd visit but I wouldn't initiate any conversation first other than that.
I work in the retail industry and have seen and talked to people in all walks of life, including crossdressers. I treat them like any other customer, with respect. After all we are all humans living on the same planet
I would react no differently than with any person. A smile and maybe a greeting. However, say I'm in line with that person at a store, I might strike up an innocent conversation like I do quite often with other strangers.
If I am well received, then I might try to break the ice with an inquiry about clothes or something, remarking on something she might be wearing - the hope being that I can give a clue that I might be a sister in drab. I wouldn't press if there's no interest shown, but I am always hoping to meet other crossdressers as possible future friends.
Of course, I would be highly respectful of that persons privacy, just as I would want if I was out dressed.
Hi Suzann, Just as any lady just a sincere compliment.
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My initial thought would be that this person isn't passing. My reaction would be to treat this person just like any other person I don't know. That might be walking on by, it might be a polite nod, etc.
Recently I saw a cd gal out....and I really wanted to say something, but I know how stupid I would look if i did, so I said nothing, and did this weird experiment thingy and followed her ( from the distance and NOT creepy like) across the mall, not gawking at her, but watching EVERYONE else's reaction and to make sure she wasnt bothered.....guess what...no reaction, no issues, no nothing...i was like her secret bodyguard.I also wanted to see the publics reaction, which was fine, nobody read her or batted an eye ( except for 1 guy ) ...funny story...a few weeks later I actually MET her at a CD/TG event...I walked up to her at the event ( NOW an acceptable place to introduce myself) and told her the story, she laughed and thought it was funny,cause she diddnt realize she had another sister watching her back and I made a new local friend . Katey says it best LOL.......
Usually a smile and a nice remark.
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Why, just the other day a lady walked pass pulling her luggage behind her evidently walking towards the airport. She had on a long black mumu with flowery sandals and painted toenails. Very large breasts and some of the longest eyelashes I've ever seen! And a beaming face of pure happiness. Must have had a fabulous vacation and flying home pretty. I just did the brief polite smile with the knowing expression.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
Is she single? LOL
Since my goal is blending in I would simply smile. I love it when I am out and I pass another woman and they give me a big smile. A makeup artist told me years ago one big difference between men and women is that women, even if they don't know each other, will smile in passing much more than men. That is so true.
Its simple you treat her like you would any other Lady
If you have the right opportunity you can maybe pay her a compliment or start a conversation. I was once asked by a woman if I worked in the store we were in, so it does happen.
If I make eye contact with anyone I usually just nod. Sometimes I will say hello if the person seems receptive to receiving a hello. Too many people seem so closed off that they project the image they do not want any intrusion in their lives.
I've seen at least two CD-ers in my small city over the years. The first really seemed to be out to flaunt herself. If she were a GG 99.99% of the world would not have a favorable or even neutral opinion of her. She was an attention grabber. I actually saw her twice over two years and she wore the same outfit which was not complimentary to women. In the second visual encounter she needed a lot of help to achieve appearing as a woman. She was visually entirely male except for the clothes. There was no effort to adopt the mannerism of a woman; the walk, the manner to hold a pocketbook, etc. In a previous post I did, and do, give her credit for getting out.
When I was in San Francisco decades ago I did see two very smartly attired cross dressers having lunch. Their presentation was 100% passable. I could have been wrong, but, I don't think so. Nobody else in my large group or anyone at the surrounding tables gave them a second look.
I would be more interested in her choice of clothes, makeup, hair and how well she "passes," if at all. I'm always evaluating myself as to how the things I wear, etc. adds to my appearance as a woman... how well I blend in. And seeing what others do to accomplish (or not accomplish) this helps considerably.
Interestingly, as I have gotten more and more into my dressing, I seem to notice more crossdressers in public these days. Because I'm actually looking for them now and never noticed before? Or is it because more of us are out there as the climate of acceptance is changing?
Listen ladies, if you SEE a crossdresser then by definition she is not passing. Sometimes it seems like you guys think you're invisible because nobody openly reads you. People notice. People talk. This whole idea of pretending someone is passing and then keeping up the pretense if you do talk to them so they can go on believing that they are passing is just not healthy.
I have always treated everyone presenting as a woman according to their presented gender. That has included conversations but not always. When I have been at a distance (from someone I perceived as a CD ) and able to watch, I have always seen absolutely no reaction from anyone. We, of all people, should know how they want to be treated. Forcing recognition on them is a problem with our own egos.
I smile and possibly a nod. Just a friendly smile. I once got challenged by a dresser or possibly a TS who must have been having a bad day. It was in Cambridge MA (very alternative friendly community). I was in guy mode at the time and she answered my smile with "you have a problem mister?". I answered "no not at all. I dress sometimes too". Her frown went away and we just walked our separate ways. But mostly they just smile back.
Smile, nod. Go on my way and continue shopping. : )
If I saw a beautiful all natural woman walking down the street and admired her I would do just that admire her and move on... so what's the difference?
I'd do my best to give a compliment and move on.
I know what I would want is invisibility. to pass without question. I want to have that, so I wouldn't dare rob another of that.
If there were a secret handshake, I'd want to give it.
How do you give the nod to folks who are actively hiding?
- MM
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