urge to dress or urge to become female?

[AbigailJordan]

I'm fortunate that I do not have an SO to worry about.. my last girlfriend knew about my dressing before we even got together. As for the bi side, I think we all have some kind of fantasy somewhere about being treated like a real woman in a sexual way.. but as someone else said, often this is just a fantasy.. and once your little play session finishes, the attraction can fade..

I identify as a straight crossdresser who has recently decided to out themselves locally and go out dressed in broad daylight etc. I watch trans porn and often fantasise about some of the sexy pre-ops.. and occasionally even the guys.. I still haven't taken that fantasy as far as trying it.. although I'm probably much closer to trying it than I was a few months ago.. so I suppose mildly trans/bi curious if you're one of those who like categories.

So to directly address your 2 questions..
1.. Can't really relate to that, but I would certainly start with "I have never nor would I ever cheat on you with anyone. The thing is I sometimes wonder what it would be like..." or similar.
2. I think your feelings are relatively normal as far as normal goes.. A big part of being en femme is about feeling beautiful and sexy and desirable (as others have said this can often be a root cause of dressing) then knowing guys find you attractive is a big ego boost for those who feel generally out of place or "obvious" etc.
3. Yes it makes sense.. perhaps ask your SO that if you got some heels would she be comfortable with you spending a day or half day each week as lily.. see what she says.. maybe once she accepts the dressing in it's entirety (i.e. once the outfit is complete), she will be more curious about whether it relates to your sexuality etc..

Remember that for many girls, that thought/fear will already be there.. so many people equate dressing with being gay that many women will be concerned that as a crossdresser you will no longer be interested in them etc.. she probably just needs to find a way to approach the subject with you

[Dora]

Yes I have an urge over time to become female more, I love to crossdress but now its an urge to be female more and now I am attracted to guys, if you would have asked me 10 years ago I was your typical straight guy attracted to women but now the tables have really turned 180 degrees I am going through all these new feelings that I am coming to terms with and accpeting, overall I love everything about being a girl and attracted to guys.