I spent the last few weeks considering revealing 'Amber' on my regular Facebook account. My super supportive friend and I went through all the possible positive and negative outcomes. Although there was some risk of alienation from either friends or family, I considered the likelihood to be low.
Overall, the positives seemed to outweigh the negatives. I resolved that in a worst case scenario of being rejected by long-term friends and family, I would remove any unkind comments and then message that person directly. I would tell them that I'm disappointed in their reaction but would leave our relationship open should they work through it and come to a place of acceptance.
For people I knew less well, negative comments would probably result in an unfriending and possible block. After all, why would the opinions of people I don't gel with have any bearing on me?
I carefully chose my time to post and did so with a flurry of nerves and excitement. All my fears of rejection turned out to be unfounded. I was congratulated and had many great, positive comments from people, even some with whom I hadn't spoken with years.
It made me happy on both superficial and deeper levels. The compliments and messages of support were awesome but the more satisfying and heartwarming part was that I realised that not a single person had anything other than positive vibes; I'm honoured to know such people and despite the distance left to travel, we've come a long way in acceptance and tolerance to unconventional lifestyles.
To my friends, I raise a glass! You guys are awesome!
Cheers!
Amber
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