Are you appalled?

[Sandie70]

I recently started a Facebook page for my crossdressing self and I've garnered quite a few friends so far - most are really cool, like on this site - and it's fun being able to interact with other girls on social media (with real names and no hidden identities).

However, I have been disgusted with the many crossdressers who troll FB to find partners for every sexual proclivity there is.

I keep blocking those who post TG porn or proposition me, but is it my imagination or is our community really filled with that many sexual perverts? That doesn't seem to be the fact on this forum - so, what's the deal on Facebook?

Oh, and I still get friend requests from men who seem to think that because I'm a crossdresser I'm a s***.

[AbigailJordan]

I've found that too Sandie.. It seems you only need to friend the wrong person and you're suddenly inundated with random friend requests.. and half your page is filled with all kinds of pornography.. I suppose those people have always existed.. and that forums like this don't really suit their purpose.. which is fortunate for us

[Suzie Petersen]

And we wonder why some people have a negative impression of CD'ers!

It is very sad, if you ask me.

[chris63]

Yeah, a FB crossdresser page is like a pervert magnet. I remember hearing Vera Wylde saying the same thing a while back

[paulinescotlandcd]

I have been inundated with requests from all over the world. You get used to blocking and just ignoring them.I recently changed my profile picture to something very boring and the requests have fallen away!

[Joni T]

That's exactly why I don't FB.
Joni

[Sarah-RT]

I recently set myself up a Facebook page, browsed a few other profiles of crossdressers and now all the groups and pages it's suggesting to join are all sexual based or a bit more "fetish" based.

Thanks, but no thanks. I'd be happy to add any of you gals here though once I get a few things with the privacy sorted

[Kate Simmons]

You have to consider the source Sandie. A lot of people consider FB a dating site with fresh fodder. I get the same as you but just ignore the wackos. I have a lot of good friends who are mutual to both sites. BTW the name I use on FB is Ericka Richards a name I formerly used here.

[Zylia]

Hah, welcome to the rest of the internet! The problem isn't Facebook, because this happens everywhere. Perverts are everywhere, CD.com is just squeaky-clean.

[Tristessa]

IS CD.com really "clean"? I'm not directing this at anyone in particular, but since I've become more active here (particularly since I posted a profile pic), I've been getting friend requests from some members that have had accounts for YEARS, but have a very low post count (fewer than me). This seems a bit suspicious to me, as I honestly can't figure out why someone would frequent a forum that they don't actually participate in. Maybe they do most of their communicating by private message? I don't know, but it does make me wonder whether they are here primarily to ogle our pics. Am I just being paranoid?

[Zylia]

No you're not paranoid, you're actually right. While it's not immediately apparent, it's still everywhere on CD.com. Most peeping toms on CD.com at least have the decency to pretend they're CDs themselves, for a very long time in some cases. What makes CD.com clean is the fact that obvious sex subjects aren't allowed, but we can still have panty threads, can't we?

[LucyNewport]

I think this site is fairly safe, in general. As with anything on the world wide web, post at your own risk, it never goes away. I do find it funny how most message boards (cd.com included) are like 90% lurker though!

[Krisi]

You are inviting this sort of response by posting as a crossdresser. It may not be right, but it's reality. Personally, I don't put anything about my "hobby" on Facebook and I only accept friend requests from people I know or friends of people I know.

As for this site being safe, it's a safe as you make it. Don't use your real name, don't post your town or city, don't post personal details and don't show your face and it's pretty safe. Ignore the above and you might be in trouble in various ways. Of course, it also depends on your level of stealth. If you normally walk around your neighborhood and town dressed as a female but with no attempt to disguise yourself, you're already out and you don't need to worry too much about the Internet.

[~Joanne~]

There are a lot of admirers out there, finding you and harassing you is just a lot easier on Facebook than it is any where else. They probably figure because you are there that you are free and looking, at least from their point of view. I have an account for my drab self and with all the spying and cross posting that goes on there, without any consent or whatever, I'd never get one for my fab self.

[Donnagirl]

I have a Facebook page with more people (and I use that term in its most generic) blocked than I have friends... But... Facebook has introduced me to lots of other, more local gals and quite a renewed social life. I actually wouldn't be without either, Facebook or this place, both have their pros and cons and collectively they cover the spectrum of need...

[Adriana Moretti]

I know your new to facebook....but...if you use facebook smart, and dont post in the public crossdressing tg groups, those people cant find you. If your posting pics in these public groups you can bet your life that people will bother you. I am NEVER EVER bothered, because those people cant find me..or maybe I'm just ugly... I just dont post my pictures in the groups...they are a breeding ground......i did notice on your facebook page you DONT post in these groups though ( from whayt I can see ), which leads me to believe they are getting acces to you through the comments you leave on OTHER peoples page or simply one of your facebook friends , so I'd question some of the friend requests you made, or comments you left on perhaps a questionable place. I figured that out the hard way and like i said nobody bothers me....or im ugly....could be that too xoxo

[Badtranny]

I recently started a Facebook page for my crossdressing self and I've garnered quite a few friends so far - most are really cool, like on this site - and it's fun being able to interact with other girls on social media (with real names and no hidden identities).

You use your real name on your Crossdressing FB page?

My rule for FB is no fake names. If your FB page isn't your main page including friends, work and family, then I can't accept the request. I won't be anyone's secret friend.

Regarding perverts, crossdressing is a sexually based activity for most men who do it. Even here you can find dozens of threads directly addressing the sexuality aspect of it.

[JessicaJHall]

Ugly... HAH! you are gorgeous Adrianna! And I love your approach to all this, I want to be you when I grow up.. !?

Edit: Lucy, I've been on Vbulletin boards not related to CDing and it always appears there are lots of lurkers, but it turns out most of them are bots.. googlebot, etc. They are automated info gathering software. This became apparent when a site was abandoned, and they were still lurking.

[kimdl93]

I wouldn't assume these are CDrs. There are lots of trolls out there posing as any manner of thing.

[Teresa]

Sandie,
It's one reason why I don't do any other sites, I don't care for the FB rules if you read the small print you don't just walk away and delete everything, they have rights to use pics or text anyway they choose, you even leave a footprint when visiting !
I know I have thrown caution to the wind sometimes on this forum , I haven't had any backlash so far but I've reached the point where it matters less anyway !
The only time I have concerns is when the forum is closed down, I assume through hackers so I hope it's secure enough to withstand it !

I have received some very flattering PMs about my pics but nothing to make my toes curl, if I appeal to someones sexual preferences it doesn't bother me because I'm only attracted to women dressed or not but it does feel slightly flattering !!

[Tracii G]

I have a lot of girls from here on my Girl FB page and lots of local girls and others from all over the country and overseas.
If I get anything pornish I block it.
I guess I have been lucky in that I have never had more than a few admirers get frisky.I just tell them keep it clean and respectful.
My page is all girl no guy pics of me at all.
I have a few GG FB friends that are friends with other CD's I know and they thought I was a GG that was accepting of CD's or I had a BF that was a CD.
When I told them I was a CD they said OMG really? The way you comment on things others post you respond just like a girl.
Main thing is when you see nasty stuff just block it.

[Sandie70]

The problem I've had with FB is that you really don't know what someone is like until you friend them. But I've slowly culled the bad apples and actually am gathering a nice group of ladies with really interesting stories and posts. Some are transgendered, some crossdressers and all of them represent the full range of the LGBT spectrum.

As far as presenting myself as a crossdresser on FB, well, that was the idea. I wanted a CD friendly page where I could just be myself in the open. And actually, it's also part of my grand plan to come out in the near future. At a time of my choosing, just the pressing of a letter on my keyboard and the deed will be done. And with that, my regular friends can peruse my page and see that (hopefully) this is, and has been, a fun and fulfilling part of my life.

[Lori Kurtz]

I get sexual excitement out of the very topic of crossdressing. Does that make me a pervert? I don't ever intentionally give unwanted attention to anyone, on this site or anywhere else, and I understand that for many members here, sexual pleasure is a very small part of what brings them here. And I can understand that what crossdressing means to me could well be viewed as trivial by people who have to deal with being transgender. I appreciate this site's personality and rules--they make this a safe and comfortable place for "good girls," and when I get the urge to be a "bad girl," I get my thrills through playing on other sites that are less demure than this one.

Crossdressing has affected my life deeply, causing a lot of pain and shame as well as pleasure. This site has helped me come to terms with my own crossdressing past, and I would hate to have people like me feel unwelcome here.

[OCCarly]

+1 on the sketchy friend requests being from trolls posing as CDers and using stolen photos. There are a lot of trolls on Facebook period, and their only goal is to invade your privacy and take whatever they can get from you. If you are a CDer or a TG, they are probably looking for racy pictures.

But there are other kinds of trolls. A few years ago I had a chance to go drive some very exotic automotive hardware on the racetrack, and I posted a photo of myself with some of the cars as my banner photo on my (male) account (which is also my only account). All of a sudden I started getting a slow but steady trickle of friend requests from some accounts that purported to be very pretty young ladies, with lots of photos of them in bikinis, short shorts, whatever. Some appeared to be genuine, others appeared to be pretty fake.

The reality is if you put anything enticing on Facebook, you are going to get troll friend requests sooner or later. Facebook is infested with trolls of every stripe, from political hatemongers to golddiggers to perverts, to who knows what. Set your privacy settings high and be careful out there.

[Lori Kurtz]

Oh ... and one more little observation ...
I wonder what the story is with those guys who are sexually interested in crossdressers. Are they closeted gays who reject their own homosexuality or bisexuality, and hide those feelings (from themselves) by directing their attentions toward guys who are trying to look like women? Or could they actually be in the grip of a crossdressing urge that they are unwilling (or afraid?) to accept in themselves, but that they find fascinating when they see someone else expressing it?