L K:
The answer is likely Yes...
DeeAnn
L K:
The answer is likely Yes...
DeeAnn
Appalled isn't a strong enough word, it's been said at least once in this thread but this is likely the biggest reason society looks down on us!
Lori,
They could be as you described, or they could be just nice guys interested in girls and ladies like us. I have met some admirers who date some of my friends. They don't profess to be straight nor confused, nor dirty old men, nor do they act that way. They know what they like and want and are very nice men.
As to the OP, I am not on other social networks like Facebook because I already spend way too much time here, have concerns about keeping my private life private on sites like that, and can show off here with pics when I want with less worry about those pics getting into the wrong hands, though that is still very possible here.
OK, my last post sounded kinda closed minded, negative, and disrespectful of some, that's NOT me, I echo AllieSF in that some may be genuine, I apologize if I offended anybody 😳
And that's why I don't do Facebook....nah only kidding. I'm too old to try this facebooky twitting thingy.
By the way, I've mentioned often on this site that I'm bi, so it's not being attractive to men that's the issue. No, you would have to see the notes I get from men in drab and some crossdressers I don't know - not a bit of subtlety to any of them.
If a guy shows me respect and is intelligent and has more to offer than "you want to see my pee-pee?", then I'm open to being friends.
And where was Hugh Grant years ago when he picked up that crossdressing hooker in Hollywood and got busted? If he had knocked on my door that night, I wouldn't have had a prudish bone in my body and his agent wouldn't have needed to bail him out of jail (lol).
I hear yah Sandie! I HATE to be a HATER but, I'll just stop there 😕
Works for me...Originally Posted by Sandie70
DeeAnn
They're not perverts, it's just sexual for them. You don't see it in this forum because of the strict rules against explicit sexual topics. I rather think the sexual nature of the CDing is the norm. Do a Google search for CDing ... you might find a handful of websites including this one that are not sexual, but there are millions of websites that are.
Reine
Reine, I have no problem with those who stretch the boundaries of sex. Porn is cool... when you are ready for it. And I believe that if what you're doing does no harm to anyone, then go for it.
However, to immediately make sexual advances or send porn to someone you don't know (and has a website or page that is obviously more on the fun side and even warns that this type of behavior is not welcome on that page) then you have stepped over the line. No means no. And even though I support a persons right to let their freak flag fly, you don't have the right to shove it in my face when it's not welcome.
If you have a crossdresser page or website with dirty pictures of penises, fine. Just be sensitive enough not to pull it out where and when it's not welcome.
That only happens if u post risque pics like I do.
Or, if you're really cute.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I'm not sure that's entirely true.. it's thinking along the same lines that women who dress provocatively are inviting some kind of sexual advance. Just because we choose to have a social networking presence for our femme side that isn't necessarily connected to our regular profile. I hear that you say it's not right, and yet your opening line clearly places the responsibility on us for posting as a CD.
Obviously nobody should post personal details on here, but as for the not showing your face part, I don't see that as an issue. Had a pic on here long before I came out in my local town. After all, the only people who are going to "discover" your dressing from a pic on here are people already looking at a crossdressing forum for some reason. Yes there is the maintenance of reasonable internet privacy, there is also irrational paranoia about being outed.. sadly the line between them is often blurred but fortunately it's location varies from person to person.
I guess it all depends how far out into the world you wish to push yourself.. for some of us it's behind closed doors.. for others it's out and about.. but lilke anyone else in this world, we should still be free to push as far as we want without being subjected to unwanted harassment/abuse/attention.
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What's Facebook?
Just kidding! I do not subscribe to any social media. Frankly, if a cross dresser is going to use the Internet to educate a wife or girl friend about cross dressing, I suggest the cross dresser guide her to sites such as this one. Unless there is a parental block on the computer (assuming it works) the pictures of cross dressers is not pretty.
And, this is not limited to cross dressers. I looked at my granddaughter's (14) Instagram account/postings. I asked her parents if they knew she had 415 followers. Heck, she does not know 415 people. I'm sure there are many perverts looking at her picture and .....you can figure it out.
Last edited by Sandra; 07-14-2015 at 01:22 PM. Reason: merged consecutive posts,
All the sexual porn and related stuff to CDing.... and we wonder why wives, gf's or just friends and family in general are uncomfortable with it all. There is a reason why we are on this site as opposed to other sites, because for many of us on here, we are not looking for all the sexual stuff. (not judging anyone who is) but we come here for more than that. We come here for real life issues and challenges and acceptance. What is it, conservatively 500,000 people in the U.S. alone are trans? probably more.... how many are on sites like this? Unfortunately there is a large sexual element to this... not necessarily from those who are tg, there are likely more admirers of trans people than there are trans people.
Chickens should be allowed to cross the road without having their motives questioned
I agree with you, but honestly I think that a huge chunk of CDers (re the millions of racy website results on Google) take it for granted that it is sexual and they assume this must be so for every other CDer. Right? People have a hard time imagining that anyone could be different from themselves.
If you are getting so many unwanted advances, I think this indicates the norms of what is out there. Only a few hundred CDers post regularly in this forum compared to hundreds of thousands of CDers there must be in the US alone. A lot of them join (there are a few thousand people who have logged in during the past few months), but then they move on and rarely post, I assume because their cup of tea is more on the sexual side.
Reine
We are as close as one can get to the Clorox or Domestos of the CD fora universe!
I think here, we're more CDs that push the TG end of things a fair bit - not everyone here, I know - but we are a tiny minority in a CD world that majors in sexual and fetish activities... which is why the vanilla world often equates CDing with something more sexual. It's a toughie - but another jolly good reason why we should all be happier about being under that big ole TG umbrella that conveys a degree of respectability around why we do this if the 'why' is rooted in a need for expression and presentation that has its foundation in our gender identity (without implying that all of us are dysphoric, 'coz we're not.
I'm not often up for defending FB (Spawn of
Now - I feel honour bound to address this:
Not that there would be anything morally wrong with Hugh, but the 'lady-of-the-night' in question (Divine Brown) was in fact a GG - happy to now refer to her trick that earned her $1m... (2010 Daily Mail article here) I think I might even consider shagging Hugh for $1m, dressed or not... 'course, he is getting on a tad now (but so am I...)
Adriana... you're way too cute... those people are just plain SCARED of you..
Katey x
"Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
You're right Katey. I must have gotten this mixed up with an incident with Eddie Murphy, who in actuality got into a little bit of a mess with what the press called a "transvestite hooker."
But the part about Hugh knocking on my door still holds (lol).
Oh, and I do understand there is a wide range of sexual flavors out there and, again, I'm OK with whatever people want to do as long as no harm comes to someone, but this thread was about the worst of the worse... like one crossdresser whose first message to me was "do you like little boys? I do."
If that's not a pervert, I don't know what is.
Last edited by Sandie70; 07-14-2015 at 03:52 PM.
Hi Sandie, I stay as far away from Face Book as I can.
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
This is as close as I get to ANY social media.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
I know. I hate that law that requires us to maintain a FB account for our crossdresser identities.
Oh wait. There is no such law.
Sandie - your remark about little boys turned my stomach. I am widely tolerand of whatever churns your butter, but paedophilia? I would gladly give the injection!
If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got!
There is a presumption in society that crossdressers have a higher prevalence of various sexual addictions. I have no idea what accounts for this presumption, however I find it even in scientific literature.
Personally, my sex drive is pretty low, and I cannot imagine why people think that crossdressers are supposed to have hypersexual disorders.
Because ...
We hide, and freak out when discovered. We're so terrified of the world that we seek out places where we think we'll avoid confrontation ... like closed shopping malls, late night walks down abandoned streets, and of course ... Gay bars (let's face it, shady hookups are a thing that happen in places like those).
So we act like we're up to no good, and the world is happy to presume that's what's up.
There's that, but then there's also (apparently) just a metric butt ton of straight dudes who are way into fantasizing about sex with people like us. I mean someone is buying all that t-girl porn, and there is a mountain of it out there.
And then there's "drag race" on tv, and you have these queens acting exactly like loud mouthed, sarcastic porn stars ..
And so yeah, if you don't know someone trans in real life. And you just surf along with what you manage to randomly bump into in the culture ... it's easy to see how everyone thinks we're perverts.
I think at least the pop tv stuff is changing. The porn thing never will ... lol ...as long as there are paying customers into it, it's gonna get made and put out there.
"Why shouldn't art be pretty? There are enough unpleasant things in the world." -Pierre-Auguste Renoir
I had a Facebook account under a different name. Recently I was locked out of Facebook, and they wanted me to provide a phone number to verify my identity. No idea what's up with that. I didn't do it. They want too much information. Has anyone else been asked to provide a phone number for their account?I don't care for the FB rules if you read the small print you don't just walk away and delete everything, they have rights to use pics or text anyway they choose, you even leave a footprint when visiting !
I am not on any social media site besides this one, which is a support forum. However, both my Yahoo and Hotmail email accounts have asked for phone numbers. So far they do not demand it, they just recommend and request one to help them contact me if there is a problem with my account. They have already asked and then required backup alternative email addresses to do that. They just want to better identify us more accurately for all their marketing activities and to be able to associate any other on line activities, including purchases and probably even membership on this site, with our correct personal data.
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