We all know that having an accepting wife for your crossdressing can be a great bless in your life. However, in reality many of us struggled with our wife. To many of us who are crossdressers, the theory to sell seems to be pretty straight forward. If a wife loves a husband, shouldn't you love the whole of him, even if it includes a small harmless fault such as wanting to wear women's cloth? After all, husbands could have a lot more other serious problems (e.g., too much alcohol, too much golfing / fishing, etc). Why the acceptance of crossdressing is so much a rarity?
I have had this struggle with my SO on crossdressing for many years, and it goes no where. I have pretty much come to realize that that might be impossible with her. But why?
I happened to read a couple of articles online, and to me it might be a clue. The gist of the theory there is that women has a primal need of a "male image" in their husband. Even if their conscious tells them "crossdressing" is just a superficial issue, it indeed touches their emotion nerves. So it is not as simple as rationalize what harm it has, and it goes deeper than that. If that seems true, this theory could also explain that some women are against their husband's crossdressing even if he only does it at home behind closed doors when nobody knows (because it hurts their image of their husband). This could also explain another side that some women are also against their husband doing it on their own away without wife participating (because it hurts their image of their husband, even if she did not see it).
Here are the links:
http://www.sisterhouse.net/familyroo...pinion-of-you/
http://www.sisterhouse.net/familyroo...mage/#post-634
What do you think? Are we really hopeless in getting our wife's acceptance?