After reading many threads about it. I was wondering what do you with your clothes do you just re-cycle them at your local clothes bank or do you hand them into the local charity shops ?
After reading many threads about it. I was wondering what do you with your clothes do you just re-cycle them at your local clothes bank or do you hand them into the local charity shops ?
When I used to purge, I would burn everything. I would start a camp fire, and throw everything on the fire one or two pieces at a time. The whole time swearing that I would never CD again. When I came to the point of accepting myself, I stopped purging. The last purge was in the spring of 2002.
The start of acceptance was changing the things I could change, accepting the things I could not change, and having the wisdom to know the difference. CDing doesn't rule my life, it is just a quirk, hicup, bump in the road of life.
I like myself, regardless of the packaging that I may come in! It's what is on the inside of the package that counts!
I do not purge - i like my clothes. I do donate things I do not wear either to women dress for success or salvation army in person.
Aren't they the same thing?
I don't "purge" in the traditional crossdressing use of the word, but like any normal person, I end up with clothing that no longer fits me physically or that I just don't have a use for. My preference is to donate them to an organization that will give them to people in need of clothing so they can get and keep a job. Second choice is to a charity based resale shop.
At this point, I need to gather up stuff and make a donation to clear up closet space.
My best opinion is to NEVER purge. If anything store your things away for a little while because the urge always comes back. If you need to thin the closet a good thing to do is donate your extras to a resale or nonprofit shop.
Erica
Haven't been doing this long enough to purge, and I probably never will purge since I am accepting of my needs in this area, and I'm single and don't need to hide my girly things from my daughter, who lives with me and accepts me fully.
But if I find I have bought something that doesn't fit me well enough, or that looked great in the store but not good enough on me, or that I simply get tired of, I first offer it to my daughter, who is slightly smaller than myself, and if she doesn't want it, then it goes to Goodwill or to Salvation Army.
For example, I thought the outfit below looked adorable when I got it at Hot Topic. Not so cute on me, and the dangling sleeves bothered me. I ended up keeping the leisure corset top (in hopes of pairing it some day with a long black skirt or black jeans), and giving the white dress with it's dangling lacy sleeves to my daughter. We both packed them away for maybe using some time in the future.
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Ozark, camping is where i get to be really open in fem. Comfy ladies clothing and nature. Some reason it feels so natural.
Suzzi, i started being open in dressing again. Its been such a thrill and pleasing. I only wish i could spend more time dressed. Hum, mqybe a job change. Nah, making a good amojnt now. Dressing is one of my disconnects. It just feels right.
Candi
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I put uninteresting or misfitting clothes in a box, but keep it for a few months before taking it to a charity shop, so I have time to think twice and take back anything that was not fully forgotten and should not be 'purged'.
I would do the same thing. I would load up and go camping and have a big campfire. There I was in my old Jeep and bantam trailer full of camping equipment and clothes. In the national forest dry camping I would have a campfire every night and throw in clothes.Originally Posted by Gillian Gigs
The last time I did this was in 1992 or so. since then I have given old clothes to Salvation Army or DAV.
Right now my SO and I are on an extended tour of the northwest in our RV and I was able to bring more 'pretty' clothes than drab...wearing mostly panties and women's shorts and jeans. I am so large in the torso that I mostly wear men's Columbia shirts with women's tee shirts. And at night I'm probably the only camper in Vanity Fair pajamas! LOL
We're having a blast! No more purges except for clothes that I never wore or don't fit in any more!
There's a difference between purge and cull. Cull is selective. Purge is everything. You can eat and purge, but not eat and cull.
I've purged way too many times over the years. I would build up my wardrobe and then the "guilt feelings would take over" I've trashed many thousands of dollars of clothes. I finally bought a large foot locker with locks. The intent was when I felt like purging, I would place all Lisa's stuff in the locker and lock it. This gave me a cool down period. I purged once after buying the locker. Haven't purged again. Also since I've been on this site and found that I'm certainly not alone and others share the same exact feelings and problems as I do, purging has not entered my thoughts.
I've purged several times. Normally I just break down mentally and throw a giant bag of lingerie in a dumpster and drive away from it like a bat out of hell. A few months ago instead of purging I stowed it away in my car's trunk under the spare tire (so it would be annoying to get to and make me think about it a little bit) and forgot about it entirely. Stopped on the side of the road to help a young girl change her tire and I remembered it. Now I'm teetering back and forth on trying to decide if I want to just leave it there, throw it away again, or just start dressing again.
Guilty of purging here. Wish I didn't because it gets expensive. But when I do I take it to a charity drop box. There gain my loss. Oh well as long as its going to help someone out!
Eek god no, I couldn't purge unless this involves syrup of figs, but that's a whole new ball game.
I would give them to a charity shop if they are good enough or they go dans le waste bin. A little bit of franglais there.
Rebecca
Don't purge, just don't. It doesn't change anything and you just waste a lot of money. if you have items you no longer need, donate them.
The title seems misleading Dominique.. or perhaps the content is..
Purging as we all know it is the attempt by some of us to deny our femme side, perhaps due to feelings of guilt or shame.. sometimes brought on by the comments of others, sometimes because of a feeling within.
You seem to be talking about clearing out some of your older clothes (i.e. in order to make room for new stuff).
When clearing out, I tend to bag a load up and then offer them on a local "free to a good home" site on facebook. Being a 12/14, I find my stuff is very popular and is very rarely seen again once it's gifted out.
As for new stuff that doesn't fit quite right, I have spent some time establishing my inner circle of friends, and I now have 3 female friends with similar styles to Abi, one is 8-10, one is 12-14 and one is 14-16, so I have lots of options to spoil my girlfriends with every batch of new clothes I buy.
And going back to the full purge, I don't recall ever doing such a thing completely.. I do recall throwing away 90% of my stuff at one point, but most of that was from my early days of dressing when I didn't really own anything practical. Even when I had a house fire, I spent more time salvaging Abi's wardrobe than my own. Purging the wardrobe never works because the clothes aren't the "issue", they are merely a symptom of the root cause.. and that root cause will always come back and make you buy another dress no matter how often you purge.
What to do with old clothes...... In the past I went through two purges. Once when I was much younger, and the second, three years ago when I actually thought i could change who I was. I've become a little wiser in my old age, and realize that this is part of me. Like Abigail said, "the clothes are just a symptom of the root cause". As I have become comfortable with "the root cause",and realize its just who i am, its no different than with any other wardrobe items. What doesn't fit, or i have no use for any more I donate, and keep what I like. I am lucky to have an SO that accepts all of me, and is willing to keep an open mind as we grow together. I look back on the thousands in dollars I purged, and will never do it again..... not to mention some wardrobe favorites i wish i still had...(Damn I loved that leather miniskirt...) just saying...
I don't purge. It either gets donated, sold or stays in my closet
The few times that I have purged, I think about 4-5 times actually, I just packed everything up and into the dumpster it went or added another garbage bag to the pile for pickup. I made sure that it was on a pick up day too so I couldn't go get it back the next day or whatever. Thankfully I am long past that now. A lot of money was wasted.
I still cull though because out with the old in with the newNow if I don't like something it goes into a box and my SO sells it at a yard sale. last yard sale she had, most of my culled stuff was actually the first things sold lol and yes, she kept the money too lol
If you feel the need to "get rid of everything" just put it in a box and put it away some where. this urge always returns and you'll be happy you did this at a later date. I know it's easier said than done because your hoping to put it all behind you and don't want anyone to find it but you'll save so much in the end.
Flip Flops were made for Beaches & Bath Houses, We have neither in 2017. Lose the flip flops!
yup screw purging, haven't purged since 2011 but when i did I just left the cloths in a bag on the curb
I have never seen the need to purge because I know I will always be the way I am.
I have a bag of clothes I don't wear anymore on the love seat that is heading to Goodwill.
I don't Purge I just thin out the closet a little to make room for the new clothes.
It's time for a trip to Goodwill,
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I have had a couple bonfires myself. in the past. But finally accepted that this is who I am and I love it!
Take Joanne`s advice here! Damn all the awsome things and money I sent up in smoke!
And still pissed at myself over the knee high lace up 5in heel sexy as hell boots!
Very Well Said Gillian!
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My last purge, cost me dearly in the money dept, not to mention emotionally. Just in the last couple month have real purchases been made. This isnt including years spandex and panties from the ladies dept. I did a reverse purge a couple weeks ago and got rid of some guy clothes. I havent worn those in years. I kept some for guy mode dates with SO. I had to make room for girly feminine things. I hope to not purge again, ever. We will see how that goes.
Candi
It is going to work out to my financial advantage that I waited so long to buy things other than underwear because now my wife and daughter help me pick things out, it's great. I won't have to purge things, but when I inevitably grow tired of something or don't look good in it anymore, I will donate it.
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