Well now I am retired. I always wanted to get my ears pierced. When a guy gets their ears piercred do they place the holes any different or it it the same placement for M or F. If you don't want to attract too much attention :::what posts would you go with till the holes are healed open...
I got my ears pierced about 2 months ago i guess, maybe a tad shorter. I was nervous as heck. The pretty young lady did an awesome job. I didn't even flinch! I got my ears pierced in the center of both ears. Just have to make sure you doctor them 2-3 times a day, everyday, for 6 weeks. IF you can stand a little burning, use alcohol instead of the bottle of stuff they give you. . . I did.
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No difference. And usually you get little tiny studs that stay in until healed. After that you can get little tiny studs with rhinestones
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I'm sure they'll put them in the center of your earlobe if it's your first set. Trust the technician, but have them show you they've got them centered. (They mark them with a fine tipped marker for me.)
I'm going to get a second set of holes above the first, so I can wear diamond studs in the uppers and dangly ones, or hoops, in the lower set.
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Not a big deal and it didn't hurt one bit.
Leave your starter set in for six weeks and clean them twice a day and be sure to rotate them once or twice a day.
Had mine for several years now I think.
No comments from people family or friends.
Not sure where your at in south NJ but I went to the Deptford Mall to the piercing pagoda, no big deal and no pain, mine were done last winter and no regrets at all just sorry I waited so long.
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i think everyone's heeling time must different. plus i'm not one to follow instructions...
i had my first one done almost 30 years ago, then had 2 more done. i didn't clean or rotate them
and i certainly didn't wait 6 weeks to change them. in fact i think it was less than 2 weeks. i never had
a problem so my next 5 i did myself and still never had a problem.
i can't recall a single negative response from anyone and only had a very few people even comment on them.
in today's world its not a big deal, it's so common and seems to me that most people have them.
just relax and enjoy them...
paula
Go for it. It is a very minor procedure. Everyone has their own preferences but I recommend getting them at a piercing/tattoo place and not the mall shop. Oh and yeah there is no difference for m/f placement. I have two in each ear actually. Ones that I wear small hoops in daily and the others are generally reserved for my girly earrings. Oh and I would not use alcohol, I use bactene (sp?).
I am not affraid of the pain ... I am affraid of what people will think friends and family. I want the feel of long dangling earings when I walk and go out as Denise. I don't go out much at all but that might change someday
People may or may not talk at first, but they'll likely soon get used to it. Some people probably won't even notice. Other people, probably the majority, know that lots of guys get their ears pierced these days. If anyone says anything you can just tell them you did it because you wanted to. I know it's easy to say things like "don't worry" and "own it", but it is very probable that the reactions will be much better than you fear. I expect you'll get more positive reactions than anything.
When I was a kid, straight boys could only pierce their left ears. The right ear was for gay men. And both just wasn't allowed.
Today, my son is 16, and he and all his male friends have a single piercing in each ear. It's no big deal anymore. Piercings have almost become genderless.
Oh, and don't use alcohol. It'll dry out the wound and make it take longer to heal, as well as increase the itching that'll happen. I'd also recommend going to a piercing parlor instead of the mall shops. A professional piercer will do a much better job of getting your holes symmetrical.
I actually just got my ears pierced a few weeks ago and things are healing up nicely. I've been told by several people that using harsh antiseptics such as Hydrogen peroxide and alcohol will cause the piercing to take longer to heal because it also damages healthy new tissue. The guy who did mine told me to use contact lens solution (no additives) for cleaning. As silly as this may sound, getting a piercing at a tattoo shop often gives you a better experience. They usually heal better and the holes are bigger to switch out for new earnings later. They also probably have more experience too. My first pair are hoops (manly ones) and I can't wait to replace them. I'm 31 and no one really batted and eye at the fact that both ears are pierced. Good luck!
I'm hoping to get my ears pierced in December.
My daughter turns 18 then and she is threatening to get more piercings up her ear... so I playfully say, "OK. if you do that, then I'm getting MY ears pierced."
She's totally ok. Wife and son will likely have a minor conniption.
I'm not worried about the pain.
Someone said earlier to go to a piercing parlor rather than a mall shop?? Is it really that hard to get symmetry?
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Hi Denise,
Everyone here has encouraged you to do it and I do too. Like Justmetoo said, lots of guys have pierced ears and I don't think it will be a big thing. I had mine done five years ago (at 67!) and if anyone asked, I just said "Because I wanted too". After the first studs come out, the holes are not that obvious. One funny story: I was in drab but wearing studs and talking with some high school kids. One said "I think it's cool that an old guy did that". I'm so glad I did it -- I just love earrings!
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I've had mine pierced for over 25 yrs. I actually don't wear earrings everyday. I'll wear earrings when I dress. Other than that just once or twice a week for and hour or so. I have never had a problem with the holes wanting to close up. Id really like to have a second set.
I have had my ears pierced since I was in high school and that was 25 yrs ago. Over the last three years I had them pierced three more times. It is very common for men of all ages to have their ears pierced. And I see them wearing all different styles of earings. I mainly wear small diamond studs.
Erica
I think the placing is the same. Just what ever fits your ears. As far as the studs go that's all you. They do have to stay in fire six weeks. I just got mine done not quite two weeks ago. No one had batted an eye out even commented. Not my boss not my co workers. Only some CD friends who were jealous said something and wanted theirs done. So don't be scared, it's not all that bad in the pain department.
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I got mine done at the Piercing Pagoda in the mall a few years back. They will help you select a pair of "starter" earrings. The placement is the same and the starter earrings are to stay in place for six weeks or so (follow the directions they give you). Your friends and family will notice and comment. Be ready with a comeback. I tell people they are not earrings, they are cell phone antennas. That usually quiets them and they change the subject.
Once your ear holes have healed, you can wear other earrings but I suggest putting the starter earrings back in for sleeping. Larger or dangling earrings can get caught on bedding and tear your ears.
Guys and girls are pierced in the same location as far as ear lobes goes. They will start you off with studs when you first get them pierced so they will be small. Maybe you can see if they carry them in like a brown or neutral color vs the normal silver or diamond (or fake diamond). I've had both ears pierced since I was 12 (against moms wishes) and got a second row put in at 16. I hardly ever even wear earrings anymore outside of occasionally as a girl...I need to get back into it.
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JuLo and genieGirl I am with you. I won't wear earings everyday but as Denise I want to put in a stylish pair. Who knows I may like it so much that I will wear earings more often. There isn't that big of a selection in clip on earings . I want the feeling as they swish side to side as I walk. I will look into it. I know the wife wont approve BUT as she tells me
STOP trying to control me. well I try to tell her when she drinks too much or she is loosing too much money at the Casinos. I let her be her and I don't like it. She won't even allow me to walk around bare foot with polish on and she knew about my desires since day one...
Go to a place that does piercings with needle and canula. Get stainless steel 1/2" x 16 ga. Captive bead hoops. They are small. Easily cleaned by rotating them through the piercings. Using common soap and water while showering. Also easier to clean off the hard crud that accumulates from the healing discharge. Comfortable to sleep in. Studs are hard to clean. The post can be irritating as it digs into your neck as you sleep.
The small captive bead earrings are maintenance and hassle free for the 6-8 week duration they need to remain in place for the piercings to heal.
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Ooooh! I want to pierce my ears so much. I love love love dangling earrings swinging from my lobes. But I can imagine the fight I would get into with the SO... I seem to be able to find plenty of clamp-on earrings fortunately.
Hi Denise, It took me 72 yrs. to get my ears pierced, Back in March I went to Sally Beauty and got the little piercing gun and
two pairs of sterile piercing stud cartridges & a bottle of cleaning solution.
After years of talking with my wife about getting my ears pierced I finally broke her down and she finally gave in.
On March 14th I marked my left ear where I wanted the studs and my DA/DTwife marked my right ear and we pierced
each ear with two studs in each ear, then on May 12th. I put a third stud in each ear, I have long lobes and I wear three
small Diamonds up the rear edge of the lobes
Bottom stud 3/16"
Middle Stud 1/8"
Top Stud 3/32"
Piercing gun $18.00
Two pairs of sterile cartridges $6.99 ea
bottle of cleaning solution $5.99
Plus tax about $39.00
It's like no one really has an opinion either way, A couple people made a comment and I just look them in the eye and
I ask them, "Is this going to be a problem for you??" and that usually takes the wind out of their sails.
Denise, Once you have your ears pierced you will be kicking yourself for waiting so long and not doing is much earlier .
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Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......
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Actually my wife has urged me to have my ears pierced but I am still nervous about. After "hiding" for 55 years, I am still nervous about what people will say. I appreciate all of you who are encouraging us to go ahead and just"do it", Many thanks!
I did both mine myself when I was 18 (35+ years ago). Big needle and an eraser on the back. GF liked it, mom was about to have a heart attack!
Back then it was not normal at all, but very few people said anything. Because of my mom's reaction, I did not keep anything in the holes during the day. This meant putting some rings or studs in every night all the time long before the holes had healed. Lets just say that was not the most pleasant experience, but they finally healed up after 4-6 weeks.
Lots of cleaning and clearing off that bit of crust that will form for a while. I used soap and water and then occasionally some alcohol. However, alcohol or Hydrogen Peroxide is generally not a good idea as others have mentioned although I have to admit I use Hydrogen Peroxide on wounds all the time as, for me, it is the quickest and easiest way to heal.
As Stefan said, small hoops are a lot easier for keeping the new holes clean in the beginning because you can rotate them a little. The comment about the stud on the back being irritating is also true, at least for some. Yes, the small rings are more visible, but honestly, people are not going to notice them any more or less than a small stud. Just get over it and enjoy having done it. It is such a normal thing today anyway.
One thing I have not seen mentioned is the fact that the holes can get infected. Especially in the beginning. If you easily get infections, as in a cut in a finger etc, then it can easily happen. If it does, the earlobe will get all red and swollen and attract a lot more attention than the holes or rings themselves.
It can also happen when you change the studs/rings out for something else, or just putting them in in the morning or whenever. This can happen even years after you first got them. On some jewelry, especially the cheaper types, the stud or hanger end is just cut and not nicely rounded. This means you are trying to press a small sharp metal edge through a small, and maybe not fully healed, hole in your skin. Chances are, you will tear it a little and then you can get in trouble.
The trick, again, is cleaning! If it does get infected, you will need something a little better than soap and water though.
I only wore earrings when I was occasionally dressing, so the holes can shrink a little between uses. I would always lube the earrings a little bit when putting them in. Just a little bit of a moisturizer or something makes it a lot easier to put them in. And be gentle, dont force it! If the ring doesnt go in right away, try pushing just a little and just keep it there for a moment. Sometimes it just slowly opens up the hole and goes through. If you force it, you might cause a small tear.
Lastly, I never regretted doing them! Always enjoyed that final touch of putting on a nice pair of earrings to complement my outfit. For me, that was always one of the very feminine things about dressing.
Just some of my own experiences .. your mileage might wary, as always.
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