About 8 years ago my son fell for a lovely girl and at some point discovered that she was a transsexual. It was his first serious relationship and he hasn't been serious with anyone since. He doesn't know I am aware of her being trans but my wife has discussed it with me and how they somehow think it has affected his ability to have a relationship with another female.
I as his father have decided that I am going to discuss with him that he was not a victim, that she was in fact a lovely girl and deserved to be in a loving relationship as a hetro female that I assume she was (post op?) and is. It is commonly perceived as deception to withold their transgender status, and I am not here to debate that. I just think that he needs to know that she was a girl and that the emotions they shared were genuine. He needs to move forward knowing he was a part of her life as much as she was a part of his, and her past was hers alone. I am still forming the content and delivery of this talk, and would welcome any insight from my sisters.
Thanks Becca