My first time out underdressed was nothing short of nervous hell the second time was much better but now the more I go out the more comfortable I am and since getting my forms and presenting a more feminine looking top the happier I am.
Do you fill happy, content, comfortable or threatened at all when out?
I used to be very nervous to the point where I was constantly looking in the mirror to make sure everything was perfect every single second I was out and I would be profusely sweating from my nerves. But as I continued to go out my nervousness has calmed down alot and I van enjoy the experience more. There are still cases were I psych myself out, but they are getting fewer and fewer.
It all depends on where you go at first, park, shopping, malls. After becoming comfortable out and about,I just don't give it a thought anymore even around family and friends who know the real me.Originally Posted by taylormercedes
I have underdresed many times and it really did not bother me i just went with it and enjoyed the experience
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think about the opposite -how uncomfortable do you feel out in menswear? personally i'm far more comfortable fully dressed, okay underdressed, and wouldn't even contemplate full menswear
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under-dressed.... perfectly comfortable , in fact totally natural , fully en-femme outside {around other people } I’m getting there , outside with no people around.. im totally at ease.
bobbi
i go out a lot dressed en femme and only once had a less than wonderful time. first time ever was safeway, then after that to the mall, the art galleries, then shopping for women's clothing at major stores, then downtown....even macdonald's with families and baseball teams
the confidence grew, the thrilling feeling of excitement settled down to that of just being a woman out.
i find it normal, wonderful and fullfilling
Under dressing bothers me none at all since I been doing it so long.
Full out in fem I still get nervous and worried. Add I been doing little things now more than I used to, it's been getting better. I once worried about piercing my ears, now except for siblings and parents I don't worry about it. As they are now pierced. Recently the weekend is spent in some women's pants and shirts when we go out on the town and I am letting my hair grow.
Truthfully I have many fears i am confronting and moving forward with. Bring in the conservative mid south, crossdressing is a bit frowned upon. So I am testing waters here and there out and about.
Candi
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I don't own any male underwear, so underdressing is normal and I don't ever think about it. Fully en femme is largely the same way. If I think about it, I feel euphoric. But usually I don't think about it.
Underdressing is no big deal for me at all because people don't know or care. Going out en femme was a different story. The first time I went out I was playing around at home and I thought I looked too perfect so I said hell with it and hit the town. The hardest part was getting through the front door, but it was easy after that. Sometimes when I am nervous I will put on sunglasses because I feel it gives me an extra layer or boundry of protection. I would also take a taxi cab from my home to whatever my destination was and that helped alot and the cab drivers never cared. My confidence got to the point where I will just dress up, grab my purse and hit the streets without a care in the world. It takes awhile to build to that point, but it is fun once you get there
As others have said under-dressing is comfortable have been doing it for years, have even gone shopping for women's attire while under-dressed and have been allowed to try the clothes on. So what if the SA had a chuckle while walking past the dressing area and seen my legs in-case in nylons. The few times I have gone out completely dressed as a woman I would always check myself in reflection of the windows that I have passed.
I do want to start going out more dressed as a woman but the biggest problem I see in doing that is I like wearing dresses with heels and the population of women like to wear slacks and flats.
Very comfortable in my case but it took a long time to feel that way.
We are all nervous in the beginning about going out but with time practice and a presentation you are happy with it becomes easier.
So I would say I don't think about it as all as I go most places as Shelly.
Hi Bobbi,
To answer your question, I feel an internal sense of contentment/happiness when I am out because I have aligned my gender identity with who I am, a woman.
For most, feeling nervous when going out fully dressed is common place at first. It almost seems as though every fibre in your body screams "This is wrong and people are staring, pointing and laughing! "However in reality you will find that most people either don't notice, don't care or if they do notice it is simple curiosity stares. As you come to realize this and accept it . . . the nervousness slowly dissipates to the point where you begin to wonder why you were nervous to begin with.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to leave you with the false sense it is all sunshine, lollipops and unicorns as there can be rude people who might snicker, point, laugh or say something. So you do need a bit of a thick skin to navigate these waters in the beginning. However once you get past that and your confidence builds, you will care little for the stupidity of a minutia fraction of society who try to make themselves feel big by making fun of things they don't understand.
Cheers
The retired Navy SEAL that transitioned, that did 13 combat missions; somehow I don't think anyone has snickered, laughed or staired at her/..........Wonder Why???????
Under dressing never made me nervous, because, well it's under....not readily observable. Most people would never know. I'm pretty much at ease in public, fully enfemme , but then I've been doing this for a long time now, and it's simply everyday life for me.
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Like people have said, underdressing is just that and therefore never bothers me. I don't really go out a lot enfemme but I will say the only comment I have ever had about it was from a little girl who was probably about four or five and that was about my shoes....
Most people are far too busy and self absorbed to notice. There is that insecure element who will make fun but that is usually over quickly and occasionally others will leap to your defence.
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I remember when I underdressed the first few times I was nervous. Intellectually I knew that nobody could know and that nobody would care, but emotionally I felt that everyone knew and everyone condemned me. I assume it's a reasonably normal reaction to believe our innermost thoughts are apparent to all, even though we know they aren't. I got over it. Now I dress more openly and care less about other peoples' reactions. But I have that thread of solidarity with everyone who posts about their first underdressing adventure as a momentous occasion. The important thing is not the physical fact, the important thing is the personal bravery involved in pushing that envelope. It doesn't matter how you achieve it, it matter that you achieve it.
It used to be that getting out the door took almost as long as getting ready for me! I now get ready and go without any hesitation.
I am getting for comfortable the more I go out albeit underdressed but with forms and a suitable top I have yet to get up enough courage to go out en femme totally that is the next nervous hurdle to jump over, give me time I suppose, I am not sure how to get round that one.
As with pretty much everyone my first time out was a major struggle. I think it took me almost an hour and trips to three different stores before I could get out of my car. Once I finally psyched myself up, went in and the world didn't blow up, I had to make two more stops!
I'm working on my second year of going out en femme and occasionally have days when I abort a trip early or can't get myself to get out of the car. It seems to happen more often when I try some new kind of clothes or when some sort of "incident" happens. A good example of that is I once planned out a trip to a grocery store followed by going to a shopping mall. I was on cloud 9 grocery shopping until two elementary school age boys came running down the aisle and almost knocked me over. I called it a day and changed back to male mode! But even now I still get days when all I can't bring myself to do is drive around town.
I have no problem underdressing-I don't give it a second thought. I have yet to go out en femme and don't know if that will ever be reality
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The more you do either the less you think about it.
It is second nature to me these days.
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As many here have said it does get easier with each outing. Believe it or not I would never thought I would go to Walmart because I thought the mall was easier. So I stayed away from going there, well guess what the last two times I went out, yep went to Walmart without even a thought. It felt great
I'm the exact opposite! I like Walmarts because most have self check out! Despite getting getting dolled up I still shop in guy mode and have problems of going to a store and not actually buying something! I always suspected buying something in the typical shopping mall store would be a chore with the necessary human interaction and my one and only attempt at a Sears was a TOTAL disaster!
I always feel very comfortable when I underdress. It's never obvious and i don't purposely wear clothing that reveals that I'm wearing panties or some other type of lingerie. In fact, when I go out for my late night walks, I have everything on I'm going to wear with the exception of my heels or boots, wig, and breast forms which I keep in a backpack. The only thing I have on is a loose fitting zip hoodie, loose fitting sweat pants, and a pair of tennis shoes that I can slip off and on quickly. Just enough to look inconspicuous at first glance if anyone sees me walking out of the neighborhood under a street lamp or if I'm in view of the headlights of a passing car.
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