I've read a couple of the threads questioning individual reasoning for being TS, CD or [insert point of spectrum here] and wanted to relate some recent observations.
It occurred to me on the drive home that I have truly made it. My social transition is complete and it has apparently been a resounding success! Despite the fact that GRS is a need for me still to be satisfied, despite the fact that I have lost much to achieve the peace and happiness that comes from transition, I realized today that I have made it because I now, consistently, receive the misogynistic, sexist comments from male family and friends. Sometimes I even get the exclusionary sideways glace and wink as if to say, "But of course I don't mean you!" Ah, what a wonderful feeling to be accepted for who I am and realize that I'm now worth 80% of what I was 5 years ago to any employer.
For all you jealous CD's, Nyah, Nyeh, I can wear a dress any time I want; and get followed around the grocery store by creepy guys. I can wear heels and fearfully decide to take them off because they make a recognizable sound in the dark parking garage as I make my way to my car.
I am hopeful that those who believe being TS is a choice will take a moment to think about what would be required to make them make such a choice, knowing about the loss of social station they would be subjected to. You see, I don't agree with or support the gender binary, but I do fit within it. As a woman, it is important to me that physically I be the person I need to be. Many of us are familiar with the saying "Sexual orientation is about who you go to bed with, gender identity is about who you go to bed as.". My level of transexualism and dysphoria requires that I have GRS; I have had to move fast at times to stay ahead of crippling dysphoria.
For those who are living through transition, my most heartfelt congratulations to us all for surviving. For those who can't comprehend needing to transition, i.e. the happy CDer's, more power to you. If you don't think you'll understand the show, don't buy the ticket. It's not like you can walk out and get your money back.
All in all though, I guess I should be happy to be accepted in my proper role by the patriarchy!