So what will make you kinky while crossdressed ..?
1)attracting males?
2)attracting females?
3)fetish like embarrassment of being caught?
4)any other kinky-ness?
So what will make you kinky while crossdressed ..?
1)attracting males?
2)attracting females?
3)fetish like embarrassment of being caught?
4)any other kinky-ness?
None of the above.
Nope, nor me......
Sarah Jane : > I wish I was a house wife
Honestly nothing. For me being transgender if about coming to terms with who I am, not how how womens cloths causes me to act.
Erica
I hate loaded questions. I hate being accused. What makes me kinky makes me kinky no matter what I am wearing.
xxoo
Jennifer
Well, I won't lie and say it doesn't make me feel a little sensuous
But honestly, if me dressing up to compensate for the lack of close adult female intimacy in my life, and which makes me feel more calmer than usual, and that I find that I actually just enjoy wearing femme attire makes me somehow kinky, then I'm unashamedly guilty of it. It's just pieces of cloth at the end of the day, and didn't the rich elite posh nobs of the 18th century in England wear lots of makeup too?
Of course though if I had a wife or girlfriend who would happily be more than willing to share my clothes passion with and make love with the impression that she's making love to a woman although she isn't really, and she is straight, then of course for her at least it would be as kinky as it gets
Last edited by Kimberley May; 11-02-2015 at 07:07 PM. Reason: elaboration.
Gurlz they wanna have fu'hun. Oh gurlz just wanna have fu'hun x
It could be anything .....I heard crossdresser saying when she dresses she gets kinky for her hairs swaying down her back ...other one mentioned she loves her frilly skirt gets flowing...for some its getting "mam-ed" ...Or shall i say feminine feelings?!!!! I sure have to learn how to talk with girls
All of the above.
Isn't being crossdressed, and feeling like I'm supposed to BE the girl, while wanting to be WITH a girl, kinky enough??Originally Posted by junemay
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Definitely, and no harm in that too. I'd say it's far more kinkier to dress as Tarzan and Jane, the teacher and the schoolgirl, or Batman and Robin
Last edited by Lorileah; 11-02-2015 at 05:43 PM. Reason: no need to quote whole post above yours
Gurlz they wanna have fu'hun. Oh gurlz just wanna have fu'hun x
Define 'kinky'...?
1) If you can put on a good enough 'show' to attract males when expressing your feminine side, that may make them kinky, but not necessarily you...
2) Ditto
3) Ah, now... I think if you read enough here you will agree that there is something in this one.While so many of us retain a residual feeling of wrongness thanks to decades of programming, we can't help but feel that even when we're expressing our internal rightness - and where would that be more evident than if someone caught one of us Closeteers in the act...
4) Other stuff? Oodles of kinkyness... but not related to this expression and none of your darned business....
Katey x
"Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
Why do you assume that one becomes "kinky" when dressed?
While some cross dressers dress for a kink, many do not.
What makes me "kinky when dressed"? Nothing. Nothing at all. I can't explain why I want to dress like a female but it's not about being kinky. Never has been.
That question may be interpreted in two different ways...
1. As most people have taken it, is being dressed kind of "kinky" in and of itself? Or...
2. When you ARE dressed, what would make you do kinky things?
Perhaps the OP can clarify a little...
Lacy PJs
Last edited by Lorileah; 11-02-2015 at 05:43 PM. Reason: no needto quote post abppve yours in full
eh it's both? transvestic fetishism IS both fetishism AND crossdressing!
it's so weird on this board how people really REALLY like to downplay / pretend this side of CDing doesn't exist... ?
or marginalize it / put it down as much as possible!
it's kinda similar to My Little Pony and the bronies! and the darker side! or anime!
hmm!
tut tut!
one could also say:
While some crossdressers don't dress as a kinky activity... many DO!
it goes both ways!
as Reine and others have stated... search up for crossdressing and transvestite and traps and all that jazz in google or whatnot... whether text (naughty stories! porn!) or pictures...
look up sissies and guys in panties and tumblr sites of wanting to BE a girl... hypno vids... it's all there
and people on here and certain other more legitimate TG sites like to conveniently ignore it or downplay it
or brush Those People aside as dirty deviant perverts
(much like the regular crowd of normies / smuggles would us!)
eyah!
don't kink shame me, bro!
Hmmm ... Junemay, I would have asked your question a different way in order to get answers. A lot of people don't like to think of themselves as kinky.
I would have given a choice of what sexual interests there are when dressed, and if they are different than when not dressed: males, females, other CDers, or solo-dressing, and also if any situations are particularly exciting (which will likely only apply to newbies) like the possibility of getting caught, forced feminization, etc. And I would have followed up my question with,
"If you are past feeling sexual when you are dressed, how would you have answered this question when you first started out?"
... but, if it is sexual for you and you are wanting to connect with other people like you, I'm guessing that CDers for whom this is purely sexual don't hang out here much because of the non-sex-talk rules. We don't have all that many regular posters, I'm guessing only a few hundred people.
Last edited by ReineD; 11-02-2015 at 09:58 PM.
Reine
The true fact is, lots of CD's are highly sexed people, but that doesn't mean most, and what sexual orientation isn't highly sexed anyway? Although I don't believe CD is actually a sexual orientation.
Many of the hairy pantie wearers (as I'm personally seeing atm) are really the majority of the most highly sexed (if we're really honest). And also those who call themselves sissy girls wearing all those frilly cosplay little girl costumes are pretty blatant. Hey, no GG would be seen dead in what they wear, all the sissy's who love to be dominated are all about kinky only, no bones about it. Some are downright dirty.
They are not hard to find at all, they're all over the net and all after one thing only, and that is c**k. I am still inundated with offers. I find it flattering and I guess I pricktease them a little, but I'm not really interested. I'm a str8 guy (I think or at the most temporary fussily heteroflexible). It's as far as it really goes with me.
But hey, it's all the same thing either with the gay, bi or straight community anyway. In other words, our sexual appetite has nothing to do with how we dress.
Last edited by Katey888; 11-03-2015 at 07:09 AM. Reason: TMI and explicit
Gurlz they wanna have fu'hun. Oh gurlz just wanna have fu'hun x
Over the last few years I have started kinking it up..... dabbling into breast bondage.... and have this thing about cow milking machines.... moooo.... lol Kind of independent from actual crossdressing but very related to feminizing my body and growing breasts.
Not a damned thing. I don't dress the way I do for some sort of sexual thrill. I don't go out trolling bars for unsuspecting guys to surprise. I dress like this because it's how I want to dress. Nothing kinky about that.
Booze.....is that a good enough answer.......LOL.....
"No Sex Please, We're Prudes Here."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
@pamela7 - yep, that's pretty much the situation. We're really hung up on sex and sexuality, particularly in the United States. And so anything having to do with sex is seen as less legitimate - and I do mean anything. Of course the irony is that sex sells, so our culture is just steeped in it.
There are a number of reasons though, why someone for whom dressing isn't sexual might chime in. I women people now who CDed from a VERY young age, or performed in drag at a later age, and claim it was never sexual for them. I'm inclined to believe them, as they've been forthcoming with me enough about other sensitive topics that I think they'd admit it were it the case.
There are trans women who NEVER put on a stitch of women's clothing until several months after starting HRT. None of this was sexual for them, ever.
So for people in those first two groups, it's pretty hard to imagine something like that, because the idea is so foreign to them.
I know people for whom CDing was highly sexual, including me . There is a very powerful impulse in the trans community, I think, to tell "the one true trans story," i.e. you knew from birth you were a girl, it was never sexual, you're straight, etc. Telling people - "yup, I would put on women's garments and masturbate," just makes the rest of the narrative seem less real. We're all really embarrassed that we do that, right? (Well, many of us seem to be!) By the way, these feelings stopped for me after I came out - so it really is pretty hard to imagine feeling sexual about wearing clothes, but I remember well how I used to feel. It was highly sexual - until suddenly it just wasn't. I'm just not ashamed to admit it, but I suspect some of us are.
I'd actually say more about my own experience, but I'm probably pushing the envelope here...
It's a little personal and yes, I'm a bit embarrassed but... I guess I am one of those gals. In fact, if I don't get that out of the way pretty much right after I step into a pair of heels there is not a way I'll be able to tuck the dangly bits away or even think of doing anything else to try and transform. Not every time but much of the time.
But with the forum having the culture that we do of putting sex, eroticism, arousal, kink, fetishism way, way, way in the background where we don't see it much, don't you think it offers a bit more legitimacy to this site over the thousands of others where the sexual aspect is constantly talked about or in your face? I don't know. Maybe. Not trying to turn the thread... more of a rhetorical question.
Paula's comment above though (plus several of the others) helps me feel like I'm not weird though for needing to touch myself once I start putting on my girl stuff.
I am not a woman nor am I a man... I am an enby. Hi, I am Wren.
OK people back ON track with the OP. Read it and quit arguing over WHY
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what's kinky?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
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