The definition of kinky "involving or given to unusual sexual behaviour"
Me being a man dressing as a woman is unusual but does not lead to unusual sexual behaviour so not kinky (unfortunately)
Julie
The nub of the kink for me is the 'wrongness' of dressing, even though i have a high degree of acceptance for other people; for me i like it to be taboo, illicit and a guilty pleasure on the rare occasion my libido kicks in when i have the freedom to play. So, in FantasyLand, the man/men and/or woman ensure that I learn to be the very worst kind of bad-girl, no matter how long it takes.
What MAKES you kinky while eating peanut butter?
Last edited by CarlaWestin; 11-05-2015 at 07:49 AM. Reason: removed troll comment
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
I don't derive sexual gratification from dressing, nor do I consider it a fetish on my part. Most of my sexually charged dressing sessions were highly awkward and were far from kinky. I did try to striptease in front of a mirror (strip to just lingerie) but it felt outright sad and empty by the time I reached there. That was as bad as it got for me.
I never enjoyed the more stereotypical fetish aspects - getting caught has been the furthest thing from sexy to me, and guilty pleasures always end up more guilty than pleasurable.
Last edited by Lily Catherine; 11-05-2015 at 10:25 AM.
It seems like most are saying its not kinky but still no definition of kink. I don't the meaning either BUT Yes it is KINKY and I like it. What makes it kinky the stealth at least for me and some other things too but still no definition of kinky I guess I'll know it when I see it or feel it
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Found the definition
adj. Engaging in some form of BDSM or enjoying nonstandard sexual or sensual stimulation. The opposite of vanilla.
My boyfriend and I are sort of kinky. Last night was great, but I still have rope burns on my wrists.F
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The thing is, what we consider non-vanilla or "kinky" changes with time and with different pockets of people. Generations ago, sexual practices that are considered within the normal range today were thought of as deviant. I don't want to be explicit, but just imagine a prim and proper wife during the Victorian era who would not let her husband see her naked (they didn't even show skin when they went swimming), who lay immobile without participating in any way while her husband did his thing, and who considered that anything outside of those bounds was vulgar and depraved. And now think of the things we do today when we have sex and the things that are common fodder in any porn video, which are also so common that Playboy announced recently they would stop publishing images of naked women, because the images are too tame compared to all the porn out there they cannot compete with. Is light bondage kinky? Some people would say yes, and others would say no because they regularly enjoy it. What about the plethora of non-missionary style positions that people take, and all the different parts of the body that are pleasured in different ways. All of this used to be considered deviant for some people and now they aren't. Gosh, and toys! Been to any adult store lately and seen the huge volume of choices? And all of this is for mainstream people! lol
This discussion isn't so much about where along the spectrum is the sliding marker for what is "kink" and not "kink", it's the whole idea that some people become sexually aroused when they dress all the time, others do not at all and they never did, others used to become aroused and now they don't (this is a whole other discussion), others become aroused most of the time but not always, others become aroused only sometimes and not most of the time, and so on. lol
I think the hidden agenda in many of the responses here is that CDing is not fetish, it is an expression of identity. Well, it is for some people and it isn't for others. And I dare say that for some people, nothing is sexually arousing ever.
Last edited by ReineD; 11-05-2015 at 10:09 PM.
Reine
Some of us are saying dressing can be sexually arousing AND still be an expression of identity.