Yes, that is it. I am somewhere in the gray area between. I am not completely male identified. I would define it as mostly. As I've said elsewhere, over the course of several years, the time that I've spent feeling shame, guilt and remorse could be summed as single-digit hours. Save for what I've read on this site, the concept of purging would be unknown to me.
My sensibilities have always been some combination of male and female for as long as I have known. I am pretty comfortable when I present as female. My nervous reactions are largely internal, but once I leave home, I am usually quite calm. While I'm always a bit sad when it comes time to get undressed, remove makeup, etc. because I like how I look, wearing male clothes is not a burden and has never felt so.
Back during the summer, I posted a photo that was taken during a GNO evening. I thought I looked quite nice in the photo and that was the extent of it for me. However, someone said that I looked happy in the photo and that surprised me as I had not thought about that before. As I studied the photo more, I began to see what they saw. I took that as a reflection of doing what I was supposed to be doing and being where I was supposed to be.
Further, when I dress, I don't try to act female. If I slow down a bit and become more deliberate, I seem to fall into a different space. There is no fetishistic component that I can see. I am not angling for guys while dressed. I've had men before I dressed and thoroughly enjoyed the experiences, but in current times there seems to be no linkage with dressing. In isolation, any one item might just be natural variance and perhaps consistent with crossdressers. However, taken in aggregate the suggestion is that there is something different going on for me compared to many other people who crossdress. But, I am not in the wrong body and I don't dread the time that I spend as Don. The degree of misalignment that I have is not enough to force any particular action beyond what I do now. I don't know if that will change in the future, but for now it seems pretty constant.
I know that this was the long answer, but it's pretty much the whole ball of wax...
DeeAnn