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    Lets hear it for supportive SO's

    While I know not all SO's are supportive, I wanted to give a special shout out to the ones who are.

    I'm truly blessed to have such a wonderful girlfriend, a woman who loves me and cares about/for me, who doesn't judge me for what I wear or who I am. A woman who accepts me, flaws and all. I don't know what I did to deserve her, but you can bet I'll do whatever it takes to keep her happy.

    So let's hear it for our SO's! And to those of us who are single, may you find one someday. To those of you who have an unsupportive SO, hopefully they come to accept this side of you in time.
    You may call me Adam, Adyson, or Ady, whichever you prefer.

    I am unapologetically me. You can accept me or reject me, but you're never going to change me.

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    I congratulate all SO's who work at a partnership however rocky it may be.

    The grass is not greener on the other side.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    I am lucky to have a supporting so Fiancee. We both love each other for who we are.She accepts the girl that is a part of me. But I make sure Sarah always has time for my fiancee and I also make sure she still has her man too. I am gender fluid or TG. I am so greatful for my Fiancee and find new ways to shown my love for her. Having that Fem side helps me to be able to express that love. I totally agree with your post.
    Sarah

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    My wife is completely supportive and has been since the first day I had the talk with her (well before we were married). She is not only supportive but buys me fem things all the time. She also does all my ironing, mending, altering and anything else I may need. If I do any of the stuff mentioned she gets upset and says I'm doing her job. I wake up every day wondering how I deserve such a wonderful woman and try to show her constantly how much I love and appreciate her. So hats off to all supportive SOs. You are very rare and I salute you.

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    I agree! I never imagined getting to have someone to share this with and also know that my softer side isn't only because im a nice guy. It has been very wonderful and I am really greatful for my lovely lady!

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    I one of the lucky ones too! Thank you all, ladies.
    If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got!

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    I too have a completely supporting, even encouraging SO! It has deepened our love and friendship that I can freely express my femininity with her. She is special, and we have never been happier or enjoyed our life more after 46 years together!

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    My wife is great regarding my dressing. I dress around her all the time.
    She never says anything negative.

    We've been out together, but not locally,
    She is afraid someone who knows us will see us.

    Love her for putting up with all my other shortcomings too.

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    My wife is also very supportive of my dressing and we have been together for 25 years. We met when we were 3 and have been married twice each. We were always friends and talked many times before. She is the love of my life. She is always buying me something pretty and when I put on something and ask her opinion she tells me whether good or bad how it looks. I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. I wish all wives were so supportive.

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    I have been on both sides of the supportive/non-supportive SO fence. News flash: supportive is better! lol

    I know I'm blessed, and I know I'll never take her for granted. Thanks for this reminder.

    xoxo

    Traci
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    Hi Ady , While my wife is DA/DT, she just don't want to see me while I'm dressed, She completely tolerates my dressing
    and even pierced my ears for me.~~......

    Over our almost 52years of marriage she has been back and forth with acceptance.
    Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......

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    I can't say my wife supports my dressing but she tolerates it and it's not DADT, I can dress around her. It could be much worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beverley Sims View Post
    I congratulate all SO's who work at a partnership however rocky it may be.

    The grass is not greener on the other side.
    theres a wide SO spectrum from absolute rejection to acceptance - patience, communication and love allows some adjustment or calibration
    as to where the needle points on the SOAcceptance meter - hats off to those in the sweet spot

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    Thanks for the thoughtful post, Sai!

    I too am blessed with an understanding wife and do my best to reciprocate.
    - Jacky ^_^/

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    Every day I wake up thanking my lucky stars for Mimi, who is not only supportive, but encouraging.
    Eryn
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    I too have a very supportive wife. We go shopping together and she picks out clothing that she knows I will like. We have been married for a wonderful 36 years.

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    My wife is totally supportive. She encouraged me to buy my first pair of heels, taught me how to apply make up and encourages me to dress and be dressed.

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    I'm also lucky to have a supportiv wife. She accepts my dressing and regularly buys me lingerie, make up, jewelry and clothes. I feel very fortunate to have her support

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    Hi, I too am luckie, my wife of two yrs now we have been together for 9. She would rather I be Josephine than Joe, she has been sick now for 3 yrs. That is why we got married. Most women want a girl friend too talk to then there husband. We have the best of both worlds.

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    Mine is a true blessing - completely supportive in all ways. Will go out shopping for me, do my makeup, give me little tips and hints. Find little mystery gifts for me! She would take me out anywhere, I'm more cautious. She is all about Nikki!

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    Yep love my wife dearly! She is truly a blessing
    the only limit that u set, is the one u set yourself.

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    Grateful for my supportive wife, as well. I couldn't imagine having to shelter this important part of me from her.

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    Three cheers for the supporting SOs.

    Unfortunately, I can only give my wife one cheer; she didn't leave me when she found out.

    Other than that, not much acceptance, and I don't expect it to change.

    We have a DADT relationship, and the only thing I tell her is when I'm going out and when I expect to return. She has let me go to the Keystone Conference, but she admitted then when I went the first time she thought (hoped?) it would be one and done. She has not seen my clothes (except the couple of bras she caught me packing for an out of town trip), never mind seeing me dressed. She doesn't even know my girl name. But she has given me a couple of "girl" things that she had instead of throwing them out.

    The most hurtful thing she ever said to me was, "If I had known then what I know now, I'm not sure I would have married you." She repudiated our whole marriage because of crossdressing. And I'm just a CD, or maybe bi-gender, and have mo plans to transition.

    However, on the plus side, I've always gotten to shop myself, and I've developed my own style which is nothing like her style. I've developed a whole group of girl friends that she has never met, and has no desire to. Steffi has more friends than I do. If I ever get kicked out of the house, one of Steffi's friends would let her crash on her couch and even rent her basement. My friend is married to a supportive spouse.

    So, keep those calls and messages coming. I'm thinking of printing out this thread to so my wife that maybe she could be supporting if she could get the negative judgement out of her head.
    Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.

    Gender fluid (adj.) - Describes a person whose gender identity is not fixed. A person who is gender fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel [more] like one gender some days, and [more like] another gender other days.

    Ref: https://www.lgbthealtheducation.org/wp-content/uploads/LGBT-Glossary_March2016.pdf

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    I'm very lucky to have met Roxy, and even luckier that she said "Yes" when I proposed to her. She's very supportive, and she buys presents for both my guy self and for Melissa. I tell her (with a smile) that she got a two-for-one deal, a husband and a wife.

    I think I might be the luckiest person ever. My previous two marriages... well, they were not accepting at all which is why I told Roxy right up front about Melissa. I had to know before we went further with our relationship if that was a deal breaker, and she was tentative at first because she'd never known a crossdresser. She knew some drag queens, I told her "completely different critters". She met Melissa and spent some time together and she's not only fine with it, she's very supportive as well!

    I really think if you're going to get into a long term relationship with someone that you should tell them right up front. I know from my previous two marriages that it can cause more problems than the marriage can stand.

    ~Melissa
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    I came out to my wife a couple of months ago and she has been great about everything. I really love her and she's the besr.

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