Originally Posted by
Stelli
JMB,
Can you express more clear what are the questions. Before you do it let me put some understandings of mine:
I have been in several occasions helped to dress. I do not have dilemma with that, but I reckon that someone may have uneasiness knowing you from another role to be helped. Second reason why I sometimes like to dress myself rather to be helped is element of surprise. Many girls do not want to be seen until they are not completely ready to be seen. You can understand that I assume. Third thing is being relaxed and trusty (even playfull) this is when it comes to makeup. I find it strange that someone does my makeup but if I am relaxed and playfull enough I would possibly enjoy that someone does me makeup.
- Does this mean that if you dress something that he is to match with style/looks?
- Does this mean that you wish him dressed from "your" wardrobe?
- (very girlish tought) does this mean that you choose what he is to dress?
There is good play game for this: "dress for photo/video (fasion) session". There are couple of things that can be achieved and create good time: 1. what I find very usefull is to understand how I look seen from aside (how I feel being dressed up is another thing) this can give idea what to wear and what not. 2. It helps him learning appropriate poses. There is some creation to that on both sides and what I find interesting are feelings of exposure. 3. it can relax if it is understood as game and it may lead also to specific makeup and make excellent passtime
Well if he did not learn as yet, and that may be somewhat nutcracking, he has to learn how to "receive" gifts. I find it cool, and I dearly accept such offers (I was talking to my wife that I need black bra and I got very interesting one as gift, one of my friends offered me to go through her wardrobe too) but this is something that is not builtin - I learned how to receive gifts. Men dressed or not do not find easy to be given something or to accept. But in the same time we all actually crave to understand another side. It takes time to learn ways. If you can be open to each other it can also make good discussion. I have spend sometime with friend of mine explaning why I do this, apart of being better understood I also learn as I speak what is and what is not important.
Please be a bit less cryptic in your writing, give examples. I find this very good subject.
p.s. a tip for you, when you are taking leading role you should not be confused. Your part will be to lead. It takes confidence and determination to do that. If it helps: talk it out, if not: try it out. (Maybe even a little bit of force ?!?)( like it gentle but dertermined )