I just want to respond about how I feel about the latest issues brought up here. I am trying to find my way in the world as a woman now and it is difficult. I think I like Paula's attitude of being a visible trans woman. It has been my plan to wear that mantle proudly. However, it has been difficult out in the work world. Today I was told a prospective customer would not appreciate my gender change. A person in my industry who I don't even know told this to one of my colleagues. Ouch the real world just raised up and bit me. Then tonight I was in line at grocery and there were 3 good looking fireman in front of me. The cashier looked right at me and said sir oh I mean mam aisle 4 is open. Everyone heard him at the front of the store. Ouch!
I guess I am admitting that yes at times I am finding I would like to just be a regular woman out in the world. That isn't going to happen and I know it. I keep telling myself that I knew all of this but the pain is real no matter that I knew it was coming. I had sailed through a lot of obstacles but there is no escaping the fact that I am looked at as different.
As far as clothes go who gives anyone the right to criticize what we wear? Surely we are smart enough to determine what environments we are comfortable in and how we want to present ourselves. It seems everywhere I go people think because I am trans they can comment on my wardrobe. My president asked me at our first meeting as me being out if I was going to dress like a ****! He said he had done research and new trans women tended to dress like that. Wtf! Not to mention my trans friends who have been condescending about that I would eventually find my style. Others in our community have said I was too girly. Again wtf!
So now I am trying to navigate being a professional woman. Nothing feels right now! My clothes aren't good enough my hair sucks , well my wig sucks. My makeup isn't refined enough. Blah blah blah! What is important is who I am, I know that. I don't even know what I am trying to say. I am struggling. It seems like I got lost for a second.
Suzanne