One of the things I've had the most trouble with clothing wise is getting tops that fit right. Either ordering them online or buying them at a store but not trying them on. Well today I finally did it! I tried a couple tops on at the store before I bought them. Now I'm sitting at home, wearing the top, feeling comfortable, and being happy.
Oh for sure trying on in the store is best even en drab I hate when things dont fit or look right
Now it will get easier each time you shop Julie
That first step in store is huge.
Congratulations!
Super jealous that you can dress at home, still haven't worn what I bought in store.
Did you go en femme? Tell us more about your experience... reactions, etc...Originally Posted by Julie1123
June,
I always try on at the stores with my forms and my bra, I can make sure of the fit so I don't have to return anything, SA's are very helpful if you are just up front with them
Heather
I most always shop in drab. I always try on before I buy. Mostly, I shop in the same 8 or 10 stores. The staff know me and are always eager to help. They automatically set up a fitting room for me. Stores where I shop consistently are Chicos, Soma, White House/Black Market, Banana Republic, Macys, BCBG, Coach, Ann Taylor, Ninewest, The Limited, New York & Co and Loft. Before they closed, I was a regular at B. Moss, Coldwater Creek, Cache, and Fashion Bug. As you can see I've shopped a lot of stores, and while shopping in drab, I have never had any problem shopping or trying on.
It has to do with attitude. Be positive, be honest, be polite, be friendly, and show you are a serious shopper. The SA's will fall all over you.
jodi
First time trying on clothes left me scared as hell, an assistant saw me in a dress looked and said "stay there, I will get you a bra to make that dress look better."
I nearly dropped dead there and then.
I think it took me a week to come out of the clouds.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Congratulations! Can't even remember that far back but I do remember when I went into the dressing room... I was waiting for the "pervert" alarms to go off! Lol. But they never did and no one cared?
Congrats! I went on my first outing en femme just last week. Getting past the nerves was the hardest part, but it sure was exhilarating!
Great job June, it wasn't that hard at all once you got pass the nervousness.
I have the same memories, and I had the advantage of my spouse being along as a winggirl.
Seriously, though, the bottom line is that we are not intruders. We are customers and deserve the same consideration as any other customer. Retailers know this, and they also know that we tend to be heavy spenders, so we tend to be treated very well indeed.
The only exception is where an individual salesperson does not follow company policy and instead follows personal bigotry. This is very rare and in every case I've seen has resulted in a bad outcome for the salesperson.
Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
Congratulations. The first time is always the scariest, but as you found, it is a great feeling. Another thing I recommend is to just be honest with the sales associates - you will have a better shopping experience if you do.
I recently made a new discovery about making tops fit me. I bought a few things that fit my shoulders, but weren't quite right elsewhere. I went to a seamstress and now they fit me so well. I feel so confident in them! It was fun standing there in the seamstress' shop in my femme clothes while she stood on the platform so she could reach my upper half.
I am a man who presents male and wears feminine clothes.
I blog about my outings: https://joeypress.wordpress.com/
I almost always try things on in the store. Then again, almost all of my femme clothing comes from second-hand stores and they really don't care what you're buying. and they're really friendly to everyone. Congrats!
Way to go Julie, I think you'll find it gets easier as well!
One of my first fears was offending GGs.
"OMG, that gross sasquatch beast is going gross up the same《insert article of clothing here》I might actually buy, yuuuuck! 😠 "
But I've tried on clothing with other women browsing around and not a single word, and believe me I was listening 😉
A few more details for those that were curious. I was in guy clothes and I kind of cheated. Had a hand basket with the clothes in them. I put a pair of guy jeans on top that I had no intention of trying on. I was a bit nervous going up to the dressing room desk as this store typically counts your items and gives you a card with the number of items on it. I lucked out and the SA was on the phone and she just waved me in. Even in the dressing room I was still nervous as hell. Paranoia over hidden cameras.Tried on the tops but couldn't quite bring myself to try on the bras I had picked out. Will end up having to return one of them. One of the tops was a bit tighter than I thought it should be. Walked out of the dressing room area. Returned the jeans to the shelf. Went back over to the women's section and swapped out the one top for the next size up and headed over to the cash registers.
You are so brave! I'm terrified to try this especially in a small town...
Jane, if you went in looking like you do in your profile pic I don't think anyone would even bat an eyelash. You might turn some heads though.
Thank you!! My job is one where if I'm spotted by the wrong person it could have major complications... Hopefully I can work up the nerve to do what you did someday when I'm out of town
Yeah. Know what you mean. I'm not sure if I would ever have the nerve to go shopping while dressed.
well done
I don't try on women's clothes in the store because I would have to have my breast forms and padded hips with me. Krisi and Homer wear different sizes. I know about what sizes I wear and if I get them home and they don't fit, back to the store they go.
BTW: Sneaking around the dressing rooms and hiding things in your basket are good ways to draw attention to yourself. You will be suspected of shoplifting. It's best to just act normally and not try to hide anything.
Good job. I've done that once trying on capris while in drab but wearing panties of course. It was quite a thrill but scary too.
If I'm shopping in drab and I find a top or skirt, pants (whatever) I just take them to the men's dressing room and try them on; I've never had any problems at all.....
Jamie
At the makeup counter
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