Hi Ya all,,,long time lurker,sister,part-time participant here.First of I`m so glad this site exsists!! Not sure how to place this question,but do any of you with wives and kids fight the `demon` between being us and being `dad`,`husband`,and staying at ease between our 2 lives. I feel like im always at purgatory,,so torn at times,,,at what point or time or understanding do we or can be at ease???If possible? btw,,,life long girl since 9 or 10.,,,adoring wife allows,understands.