Looking for advice.

[Laura28]

Well my wonderful wife said to me this AM to get a room at the nearby Casino tonight, said she has a xmas present for me. She said it is time she met laura. She knows it is something I have always hoped for. Here is my dilemma, she has seen me dressed but only in bra panties nylons kinda of a casual look no make up or wig basically all done up. She has seen many pics of laura fully dressed but has always said she isn't sure about seeing me fully dressed in person.
So here is what I am thinking our favorite high end restaurant is at the casino I will get a reservation, then I figured she could play slots she loves that I am not a gambler so I figured I would go to room and get all done up then text her and let her know I am ready. Or do you think I should dress with her in the room so she isn't seeing laura full blown but rather gradually?

I am very nervous and don't want to over load her and I am also nervous about showing her fully this side of me and wonder how she will react.

Any thoughts or suggestions would be great. Thanks all

[Kelly63]

Wow so exciting but yet so frightening! I think the idea of letting her know you are all dressed and ready would be better then to watch you transform?

[RachelB.]

I think you should ask her. See if she feels like watching you dress or would rather see the finished product.

[pamela7]

i think you know, really, from your post. she says she "wants to meet Laura". So ... plan A: slot machines while you prepare Laura.

[Krisi]

I don't usually have my wife watching as I get dressed but she has seen me get undressed several times. She know what's in there besides me.

My choice would be to get dressed and then let her see you. My caution though is to go easy on the makeup, mini skirt and high heels. Keep it as low key as you can, try to dress the way she is dressed. Not the same dress, but the same style and level. Don't let her see you dressed as a hooker.

I'm not sure going to a high end restaurant for the first time she's seeing you dressed is the best plan. Something low key would be better in my opinion. Remember, in a restaurant setting, you are committing to staying in the same place for an hour or so. If she is uncomfortable or nearby patrons are making her uncomfortable, that will be a very long hour. Go to a bar and order a couple of drinks. If it's not working out, you can leave and go somewhere else. Walking around the casino is pretty safe as is walking around a shopping mall or a tourist area.

[Laura28]

Krisi, no way are we going out of the room with me dressed lol dinner is prior to me dressing, this is her favorite restaurant and I want make the night special for her as this is a big leap and I want her to know how much I appreciate it.

[Jenniferathome]

I do not really like my wife seeing in "between" modes. It just makes me less comfortable. She can see in clothes without makeup, wig, etc. But not the transition as it happens, which is funny because that is how I showed her "Jen" originally (in video). Anyway, the shock and awe is over, she knows it will happen and she will see "Laura" so do you thing and meet her downstairs.

[Cheryl T]

I would say let her play her slots and meet Laura in total.
It will incredibly nerve wracking for you, dressing in front of her for the first time. Take the time for yourself to do things right and then later you can dress together.
After all, she did ask to meet Laura, didn't she?

[bridget thronton]

Ask your wife is good advice - i am getting more comfortable with my wife catching me in the in between stages but not quite all the way there yet

[Krisi]

Krisi, no way are we going out of the room with me dressed lol dinner is prior to me dressing, this is her favorite restaurant and I want make the night special for her as this is a big leap and I want her to know how much I appreciate it.

Understood. Best of luck and I hope it goes well.

[ClosetED]

I vote for letting her see only the finished product. If she wanted to help you dress or watch, she would have said. My wife does not want to even see the pictures, but has seen my only dressed with beard and no makeup, as she handed me stuff to put on. I think your wife is wonderful to meet Laura, and how you treat the relationship is important - you are now her girlfriend, so what do you plan to do as girlfriends in the room? How about some clothes catalogs to look over? Do you think she will give you makeup tips and correct things? Sit and have a cup of tea/coffee and chat? Chat about what? Is she ready to hear what are Laura's thoughts on life, men, women, style, dreams? Plan those things and be prepared to go in a direction she is comfortable with. She will be as nervous as you, so start with something light and be prepared for some heavy things, if she wants to go there.
I agree to go very casual, possibly a bit less dressy than she does for the evening. If she wants to see you glammed up, you can offer to change.
Hugs, Ellen

[Rachelakld]

Just get dressed, let her chose to either be there or "surprise" her at the machines

[Tonya Rose]

Your wife wants to meet Laura.. Right... Not the transformation her! JMHO!!! Good luck!!!
Krisi Made a good point ... Dont over do it!!!

[Laura912]

What a treat! If asking her does not give you an answer, go with the full presentation after she has been out of the room and enjoy.

[reb.femme]

Krisi, no way are we going out of the room with me dressed lol dinner is prior to me dressing, this is her favorite restaurant and I want make the night special for her as this is a big leap and I want her to know how much I appreciate it.

I would do the dressing bit before dinner. If she runs off and can't take it, at least you haven't wasted your money......SORRY, SORRY...Only joking.

I think there are merits to both columns of advice in the 'let her see you dress' and 'see you once you've dressed' camps. In the first, the change is more an evolution so no immediate shocks, but as she has seen you in a more casual state of dress, the change isn't such a gargantuan one.

Sounds like you have an epic wife on your hands and going out to somewhere that she likes is a sweet thing to do as well. Have a great evening.


Becky - Agony Causing Aunt

[mechamoose]

It sounds like your mate wants to see that other part of you. At least in part so she can get a bearing on where you are.

Any person in a fixed relationship is going to face the same questions. WHO are you? WHY are you with me? AM I enough?

Will you leave me because of what I can't give you?

Our female mates all get bugged out about the same things. How do my secrets affect how we live our life together?

Simple. Easy peasy.

If you love someone, you seek to give them *everything*. Every comfort. Every reassurance.

You (girl in a guy suit) just love them, right?

Love is genderless.

Love is love.

I hope your mate can see that. I don't care if you nhave been together 30 years, if you are tone deaf to your partner, then you just aren't paying attention. Any woman in that space is still living in a fantasy.

Nobody here is the same as who they were at 20.

Nobody here is who they were at 40.

We, as weak humans, all need validation and support. Even with all my latitude, I'd be crushed without support.

This place is a haven. A place where we can be freaky and not raise an eyebrow.

Let it fly, honey.

- MM

[ReineD]

Why don't you just ask her if she would rather see you emerge fully dressed with makeup, wig, etc, or if she would rather see you transform in stages as you are getting ready. If she shows no preference then do what feels most comfortable for you.

[audreyinalbany]

yeah, it scan be as simple as asking her, "do you want to just meet in the restaurant or do you want to meet in the room and go down together?"

[Angie G]

I'd ask her witch she would prefers.
Angie

[JessieA]

I would think since she wanted to meet Laura it would be better to be fully dressed. That is if you want her to think of Laura as someone separate rather then her husband in a dress.
Just my 2 cents worth.

[Katey888]

Laura - of course this is down to your intimate knowledge of what you and your wife would likely prefer...

Personally - I'd be nervous as heck getting ready if I knew what was coming and TWICE as nervous if anyone was watching... Makeup would likely be a uncompromising disaster and I don't think that would be a good way to start...

You say she's seen pics, so I'd suggest the finished article would be the way to go - should be no major surprises for her there... and if she watched I can't imagine ANY woman resisting the urge to say: "Oh no - you don't want to apply mascara like that..." or something similar (but perhaps your wife is different - unique, even... )

Enjoy the nerves and enjoy the experience - let us know how it goes..

Katey x

[ReineD]

That is if you want her to think of Laura as someone separate rather then her husband in a dress.

I should think that most wives will not think of their husbands as a separate person when they are dressed. You're describing a phenomena that I believe is unique to some crossdressers. The wife will think he is her husband, who happens to be cross-dressed.

[Christina Alice]

Hi,
I'm sure ReineD is right. At our local meetings, the wives often use the their husbands male name without thinking and it seems awkward for them to us femme names. They only know the one person they married.

[Bria]

I think Reine said it right!

Hugs, Bria

[MissTee]

Whatever you decide please keep us posted, Laura, and good luck!