That does sound complicated, Samantha, and I wish you all the best. I will share that in my experience the longer I am in a position where I can't dress, then the more I think I want to dress, go on HRT, transition, and go out and the like. Having the luxury of being able to dress regularly at the second home keeps me honest with myself -- that is I am complete and fulfilled by dressing at home and having my wife's support. I do not need/want to transition or go out.