Today was the big day, today I told my mum. We've always had a good relationship and as the only one of three sons who lives near her and what with all the emotional turmoil we endured together with dealing my dad and his Alzheimer's, it no longer seemed right to hold back about what is a big part of my life.
In a way it was a lot like telling my wife except we went through most of the roller-coaster in 45 minutes. Within that time it went from anger (I started off with a picture of me, as I didn't know how else to bring it up and she thought I had found another woman ) to disbelief to worry (my cousin transitioned many years ago and she feared that's what I was trying to tell her) to expressing her love and acceptance of what makes me happy. Many questions in between, of course.
She said she'll need some time to process it but overall she is grateful that I chose to tell her. I can't imagine it ever directly affecting her but I'm glad that I told her.
....AND because this is cd.com, the following caveats:
- this is not for everybody and I am not advocating that
- it wasn't a spurious decision to involve her to make myself feel better at her expense
- I put my bra on backwards then spin it round