So I came out to my wife about my desire to underdress about two weeks before Christmas. She and I have known each other for 20 years, dated off and on for most of that and been married for 8.
The catalyst for me coming out has probably been the stress surrounding my very demanding job and the birth of our first child. Unfortunately, my coming has created more stress for my wife which has made me feel a bit guilty. But we have both been open and honest with each other and that has been positive.
Her reaction has been mixed. After reading so many posts it seems cliche, but the first question seems to always be "are you gay?" I assured her I wasn't and we seem to be moving forward. But she is having a bit of a difficult (mixed) time with it.
It hasn't been easy for me either. This has been a part of my life that I actively suppressed over may years. When times were great, it seemed easier, during tough times it was more difficult.
At times she seems ok, she is quite progressive, but I think it hit a little too close to home. She definitely doesn't feel comfortable seeing me in any ladies clothing right now, but has commented about cleaning out her closet and letting me choose between some of the stuff she no longer wants, but she would put it in a spare room and let me pick through it out of her view.
We will move forward slowly and I am optimistic she will soften her stance in time.
Any advice from anyone else on the next steps we should take?