is it true? That once I starting dressing up like a Girl, down the road and this may take years 40, 50 years who knows, that I would end up dressing fully and openly as a Woman.
is it true? That once I starting dressing up like a Girl, down the road and this may take years 40, 50 years who knows, that I would end up dressing fully and openly as a Woman.
Live Today as if it is your last day
Remember what Doris Day once sang?
"Que sera, sera / Whatever will be, will be / The future's not ours to see / Que sera, sera."
Don't start focusing on what hasn't happened yet that you don't enjoy the journey.
No I wouldn't think so but we all are different so who knows?
Like Sandie said don't focus on the what hasn't happened.
Its lines of thought like this that will drive you crazy.
Life is like a box of chocolates..., who knows what will happen or how far you'll progress, if it feels good and doesn't hurt anyone enjoy yourself. I'm sure there are plenty of men who go as far only wearing a few items for their own enjoyment and relaxation. There are more important things to worry about in life, just go with the flow.
"you are a strange species and there are many out there;shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you ,you are at your best when things are at their worst" ...[ Starman]
It may of course be a bit disturbing to sense that one is really not so firmly anchored to the gender one was born into.
The reason I asked that question is that I am getting more obsessed with Feminine clothing and I am going to stores and purchasing them and enjoying wearing them. I think also that attributes itself , since I have my own quarters now I am a bit more free.
Live Today as if it is your last day
Have you been reading my bio, Bruce?
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!
When I was single again, living alone with a good job in a new town, the escalation bug hit me. I could dress as much as I wanted (not at work, but I didn't want to do that), and as it turned out, it was 3-4 times a week. There were other interests. That time was the most I ever dressed. Life happened, and changes came. I always knew I was and am a crossdresser, happy to occasionally dress in private.
Bruce - The future is unknown. You may want to want to dress full time some day or you may not. There are no set answers, no statistics, no guarantees. It is your life. Learn, explore, develop, grow, enjoy. Live your life the best you can.
Absolutely untrue. It was 20 years.
Not necessarily. It may happen for various reasons as you and your circumstances change.
Hugs, Carole
It will depend on what you want to do with yourself later on in life. I wouldn't worry about that now just enjoy your life now.
Since you said "dressing like a girl" I assume you dress completely: wigs, make-up, shoes etc. but it does not have to be so. Read what Feminin Alissa said: plenty of men who go as far only wearing a few items for their own enjoyment and relaxation.. I am like that and I have been doing it much longer than you specified. I am in a skirt & lingerie all the time, even if sometimes just underdressed, but I am a man at all times and never try to look or feel like a woman. It all depends on what you feel is right for you. I have been criticised or at least put down on this forum as not being a "true crosdresser", but it does not bother me at all, and I feel right at home here, even though I might be an "odd man out". And I know there are several others like me.
Why 40 years? Is your blouse that tight?
Just from you using the word obsessing it sounds like the pink fog has gotten a hold of you right now.
Some people get into a hobby or activity they go all in and buy every accessory associated with that hobby or activity and that pretty much is an obsession.
As Tracii has suggested, it also sounds to me like a hefty cloud of pink fog has surrounded you. It will lift again, but, for now, try to keep your focus on a comfortable goal, a few days away rather than decades down the road.
We are who we are, and we all are at different stages. I consider myself a cross dresser, yet only really have the opportunity once every few months and fumble through the pink fog quite frequently.
You need to wait that long?
Nooooooo .....
Bruce,
It is as true as you want it to be.
You decide if its going to be 40 years, or 40 seconds.
Don't let anybody set a goal for you. Its your life, your responsibility.
Love,
S
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me" - Ayn Rand
Bruce, the answer is "no, it's not true". For most people here they remain CD and have occasional pink fogs, and the small minority transition. Just compare the posts on the transsexual forum to the CD forum to get an idea of the ratios.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
What has actually happened to me is that I really started caring less about male clothing and I'm obsessed with feminine attire.
I had trouble finding a male business/casual pants and shirt for an event at work.
But, my walk in closet has an amazing assortment of dresses and costumes.
Then there's two dressers full of bras and other lingerie. And shoes! Wigs!
For me, portraying male is just a holding pattern between times of being lovely.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
Something is happening to me, I bought a stay up and a bra, never did that before, I still haven't got that pretty mini slip, probably this week. And by the way what is the " pink fog " ? I suddenly get a Girly feeling, I can say by by joining this forum, I just want to explore a bit more, I just saw on you tube two pretty girls giving sissy training, I will love to have that for fun.
Hi Bruce, I've been in this dressing up program for over 69yrs. now and that hasn't happened to me yet. ~~...
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Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
Pink fog, Bruce, is the mental state you get into when you will do anything, buy anything from your female side of thinking. You think of nothing else, you stop all rational thinking in the pursuit of everything Fem! You are in a fog, a Pink Fog. It's when you come out of the fog that you notice that you may have done some wild things and bought some interesting items. Beware the Pink Fog!
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!
It is not true. You are currently free from typical social pressures at home and are exploring. You can search this site for "pink fog" but a good thread started by Jenniferathome is http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...-endless/page2
You say you now have your own quarters, so you can dress all you want in private, so you are exploring as much as your desire. You are trying to catching up to all the things you imagined doing and so are lost in that wonderful set of sensations and dreams. The graph shows that many go thru this pink fog stage and then find their own set point of what they need. Some will decide that they experienced it and that was enough and need little more. Others will find they found their true selves and want to do this full time or transition. Just enjoy the journey and be glad that society is now more accepting of this than 40 years ago.
Hugs, Ellen
oh its totally true.....really.....not really ..if we were all the same life would be very boring
Thanks all for the feedback and advise, your responses are well appreciated. Thanks a Million.
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