This is something my wife told me over dinner last night that she heard Caitlyn Jenner say. I don’t follow Jenner or any reality TV stuff, for that matter, but I thought when she came out that she was attracted to women. I asked my wife if my understanding was correct and she said she thought so as well but maybe not now.
I realized both things can be true and I related it to her like this: I’m straight as she well knows. But when dressed if men were to find me attractive, it’s a validation of my effort to look nice (even though it would make me somewhat uncomfortable). The fact that a man could find my female presentation attractive is not a reflection of my sexual interest. It’s similar to someone saying they like a picture I painted. Or, If a dude tells me he likes my bike, I say, “Thanks, I do too.” I don’t think, “Hey I should date this dude.” It’s just a compliment with no further implication.
Make sense?
perhaps for some further clarity, it doesn't matter if I am or am not thought of as attractive because in the end, it's about the freedom of being out it's really only a validation of the effort in the presentation.