After "Play Time" I feel like it's a crime scene cleanup!

[Judy-Somthing]

Do you feel like it's a crime scene cleanup.

Last week I drove half way to work and thought to myself, did I get rid of the (eye makeup remover pads)?

I turned around and and went straight home. There they were sitting on the edge of the sink. My wife doesn't use makeup remover pads.

Then last night I had a little to much GIN and this morning when I woke up and went to my computer, guess what, it was still on and on this site.http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...es/shocked.gif

Maybe I'm trying to get caught.

And forget wig hairs falling everywhere.

[Helen_Highwater]

Judy,

I know just what you're saying about a crime scene. The number of times I've checked all the rooms I've been in especially the bathroom and bedroom after returning to drab....and then had to check them again just to be sure they're clear. Paranoia can be a good thing.

[ChristinaK]

I feel the same way. Checking for hairs, foundation on the towels, etc.

A couple of days ago I left everything out and was going to clean it up after I came back home from being a dude, got busy and didn't go back into my bedroom. Fortunately I have a small bladder and went to my bedroom bath. Yikes! I cleaned everything up quickly, clothes, forms, makeup, etc. Just before my wife got home.

She knows some things, but doesn't know others and we have a DADT relationship. Man, that would have been a shock to her and a blow to me.

What a dork I am sometimes.

[kittie60]

Yup, those were the days. Had to make sure everything was picked up and in its place,triple check the face for.no left over makeup, and lets not forget are wig.strands if you wore a wig and tell tale nail Polish. God I miss those days.lol. I'm alone so I don't worry about it anymore, but thinking back it was hillarious.

[flatlander_48]

Paranoia can be a good thing.

Paranoia strikes deep
Into your life it will creep
It starts when you're always afraid
You step out of line, the man come and take you away

DeeAnn

[NicoleScott]

It takes attention to details to leave no evidence. That is, to an unsuspecting wife. If she suspects and is trying to catch you, there's not enough paranoia to prevent that. Then it comes down to luck.
I did really good for a long time, making sure there was no evidence in the bathroom trash can or toilet. I always made sure I accounted for all ten adhesive nail tab backings, not to mention all ten nails. 9=panic. Find it!
She's not blonde but my wig is, so I vacuumed. And emptied the dust bag/bin. But some hairs wrap around the roller brush. Where does it end?
For me (and the marriage) it was a windstorm that blew over the garbage can, and she found a pantyhose package that wasn't her size.
Yes, a crime scene is a good description.

[Genny B]

Reading this tread and suddenly realized I left nail polish by the computer! Whew! This tread may have saved me this time!

Genny B

[Lauri K]

I can not really comment on this post other than to say I feel am very lucky that I do not have to hide much these days..

But that has not always been the case.

I have to say though that there is no way to hide being a CD/TG over a long period of time, you will make a mistake or you may even out yourself without even knowing it, been there.

So always be prepared to take your medicine and or provide your plea of innocence, because that day will come along, it's just a matter time of when it will.

Poor Nicole got caught by a thunderstorm causing a trash can to reveal the evidence

[Lexi Moralas]

I thought I was the only one that felt like this. And as time went on I got careless and after too many close calls I actually got caught getting out my stash out of hiding one night. The she was like a blood hound found the tiniest things I could imagine
In place I never would have thought of.
Now I have to be so careful its Insane.

[threeheavenshigh]

Paranoia strikes deep
Into your life it will creep
It starts when you're always afraid
You step out of line, the man come and take you away

DeeAnn

Ha! Sweet.

Yeah, the split chance master criminal luck has saved me a few times. Generally though, since age 10 I have daily existed at a CIA level of intrigue. Being CD has taught me all sorts of life skills. lol

[CourtneyJamieson]

Boy can I relate to this post as well. Double and Triple checking every room I have been in. One day I noticed that I had left powder on the bathroom sink faucet. I had wiped out the bowl but not the actual faucet and there was powder on the top of the faucet. And my SO doesn't wear powder. Luckily I discovered it in time. Now I check everything on the bathroom vanity. And I am always paranoid about leaving some miscellaneous garment or piece of lingerie out after changing back into drab. And this morning I was trying to get the hang of eyeliner again (For the 100th time) with no success. I must have wiped, washed, and re-checked my eyes 25 times to make sure I didn't have residual eyeliner left on my lids. And throwing stuff away.....I hide it in McDonalds bags or newspapers before throwing in the trash. And don't even get me started on the computer. Just when you think you have all of your tracks covered, something new pops up which could "out" you if discovered. But I think this is part of what I enjoy about CDing. I like the "game" of not being discovered. And I say this not to be deceitful to my SO. If she ever found out and confronted me I would be perfectly fine having the conversation with her regarding my "hobby" and I "think" she would be understanding. But I really don't think she would welcome this news so I would just as well keep it private if possible. I think we all have "secrets" we keep from our SO just for the sake of not shaking up the apple cart. Some guys don't tell their SO about the viewing of Porn sites. Some guys don't tell their SO about losing a few $100 at the casino. Some guys don't tell their SO about going out with their buddies and flirting with a girl. Some guys don't tell their SO about all the $$ they have spent on their stamp collection. I just don't view having a few secrets as being deceitful. I know others disagree and think you should disclose everything to their SO and I applaud them for their honesty and forthrightness but I just don't feel the need to include my SO in every nuance of my life.

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Oh, and here is one more for you. A while back I was going out in Fem wear and was driving and it was nighttime. I had put on acrylic nails. After reaching my hotel room I realized that 2 of my nails were missing. You can only imagine the search that took place to locate those 2 missing nails. I searched the hotel room, my bags, and then my car. I finally found the nails under the driver's seat in my car. Whewwww, what a relief. I can only imagine the explanations if my SO would have found those nails when she drove my car instead of hers.... "No Honey, I didn't have another woman with me, those are actually my nails". I don't know which would have been the more uncomfortable conversation.

[Wen4cd]

I never get to that level of secrecy unless we're expecting company.

Usually my wife is like: "I'm doing a load of whites, got any tranny clothes back there you need washed?"

But she does get mad if I don't clean up after myself, "Your girly side isn't "driving the car" (her term for being the dominant mode) if you leave a huge mess around like a neanderthal cretin."

*PS yes "tranny" is the preferred term in my house. My choice.

[Judy-Somthing]

So a few weeks ago this site was making me feel good about myself, so I said to my wife (who only thought I dressed a few times when I was young and a couple of times for Halloween)
I thinks it would be fun to wear a dress, well she freaked.

Of course I didn't plan ahead, I had five bags of THE STUFF in the cellar. Well she got real busy trying to sort out what I just said.

I ditched everything in my car.

The next day , just like on the ID channel I remembered the surveillance system we have and had to erase the video of me putting stuff in my car a 12:00 PM

[Gretchen_To_Be]

This is why, before I bought any items of women's clothing, I came out to my wife. Now I have my femme wardrobe in my walk-in closet, and she's free to see whatever I have. I will admit that I occasionally buy a new pair of heels without telling her, but then I always buy a pair of the same in her size, just in case she likes them

[Julie Denier]

I definitely know the feeling, Judy. This is why I do most of my dressing when I travel for work. On the rare occasions I do dress at home, I'm extra careful with clean-up.

[Robin414]

Yikes Judy...reminds me of the old joke...'When did you start cross dressing?....when my wife found panties and a bra in my truck 😧 ' 😂

Are you trying to get caught...I'm not a phsycologist but I'd say yes, absolutely!

Hiding causes a LOT of latent stress and getting 'caught' kinda takes the anxiety of volunteering to conciously 'come out'... out of the equation.

It's not a bad thing and of course YMMV but it might be a good thing!

[Dana44]

i always call them panty runs. Always when i leave a hotel or something. I do a panty run around to see if I left anything. Did that with a lot of my women and they always started calling it that also.

[Nadine Robles]

Sometimes I think its the thrill of trying not to get caught what makes the real excitement about all this...
After many years I-ve become kind of sloppy (Like Judy said maybe some unconscious part of us wants desperately to get caught) and I had no choice but to take baby steps out of the closet. Just today I confessed shaving my chest hair (I have very few hair and spotted patterns so is easy to understand) it was no big deal at all! what a relief. Already told some long time ago I like to try make up (many young men do and were a little into gothic, dark-wave fashion so she loved the idea) even does my eye liner now. Same thing with unisex body splash, cologne, and creams so smelling kind of "girly" is allowed /another win for Nadine/ I just have to get it slowly to the clothing part. So far the SO turned it down, says it turns her off, but I know we[ll get there... (dumping her and finding another partner is not an option)

[OCCarly]

Thank God I am fully out to my wife. But she wants that part of me kept secret from the rest of the world, and she has some friends who like to drop by on short notice. So I've had a few scrambles around the house grabbing size 11 heels and tossing them into the den closet. One time I did a workout on my treadmill in a sports bra, tank top, capri leggings and womens running shoes, and my wife suggested I cut the workout a little short because her friend was coming over. Sure enough the friend showed up while I was in the shower.

[Kiersten]

I've been there a few times myself Judy. I left a slip laying over a chair in our bedroom, to this day I don't know how my wife didn't see it.(I'm still not sure How I missed after the numerous sweeps through the apartment). There were a few other close calls along the way, I started getting sloppy and that's when I finally came out to my wife.

Fast Forward 14 yrs later its strictly become a DADT situation with her but I'm thankful she knows.

[Samantha2015]

I don't have a SO to worry about seeing anything but at the end of a dressing day
my bedroom and bathroom looks like a girl bomb went off in there. Sooo much stuff.
Pulling everything out of the closet feels like opening a birthday present, putting everything away
is a little sad but I like knowing it is in there.

[Kimberley May]

My girlfriend came over to mine on Saturday morning to stay the night. After leaving her stuff in my bedroom and a quick coffee, she had to go to work that morning, only for a few hours before coming back to mine. While she was gone, I found one of my crop top bras blatantly lying on the bedroom floor which fortunately she didn't spot. Phew! I'd have trouble explaining that one away. Either tell her the truth or allow her to suspect that I'm seeing someone behind her back

Kimbers

[Stephanie47]

My wife gives me hell for leaving my dirty socks on the living room floor. Also, my big man shoes. The last time she found a Vanity Fair red bra out, she picked it up and placed it on top of the dryer behind the doors. Before that it was a pair of white nylon Vanity Fair panties. Both times all she said was she found this or that and put them on the dryer. In the case of the panty, she even washed them with hers. Progress? Frankly, I had no clue where I left them. I wasn't trying to get caught because she already knows. The worst? I left two white water balloons used for simulated breasts in the kitchen sink. That was embarrassing. I make an effort to put everything away, but, alas, sometimes something just does not make it. I don't consider it sneaking around her back since it is DADT, and, I am more than willing to hang my dresses in the closet next to her dresses.

[PaulaQ]

That's how it used to feel to me, too. I don't miss those days. And yes, I suspect on some level, you are trying to get caught. Even if you aren't, the odds of an accidental reveal probably aren't in your favor.

[flatlander_48]

I suspect on some level, you are trying to get caught.

From some accounts that I've read on the forum, that thought might be beyond the level of hypothesis.

For me, fortunately everything is out in the open. In fact, my wife was the original spark behind the first time that I went out dressed. DeeAnn's clothes share closet space with Don's clothes. Up to about a year and a half ago I did hide my collection of shoes, except for a few pairs. Eventually I figured that this wasn't a good idea and one night we had a mini style show. Now when I buy something for DeeAnn, I make a point of showing it to my wife. I always like to open new items by myself and get a good look at them, but the next step is to show them to my wife.

DeeAnn