Cheating?

[Amber83]

I'm glad you both are talking and working things out. I hope things continue to get better in your marriage.

[CallmeAlice]

Bummer. You are who you are and she needs to accept that you do. Does that mean you should force it down her? No, not at all. But what you do need to do is just talk it out. Honestly I think it would help a lot. Find out why she doesn't like it or why she wont get intimate with you.

[ReineD]

im sorry. I didn't mean to post everything wrong.

You're not posting anything wrong.

As I was explaining, the term "transition" is thrown about a lot and it does mean different things to different people. I was trying to determine if for you, it means declaring yourself a woman to everyone and beginning to live full time, or if it means coming out to a few people and feminizing your body a bit but continuing significant parts of your life as a male.

Your wife's reaction to you will vary depending on what you mean by "transition". And then there's the question of male sexual functioning. If you want to preserve it then there's likely a better chance of eventually working things out with your wife. If you want to do away with it, then if she is hetero she may choose to move on.

[donnaS]

Reine
Thank you! Finally someone understands me.
Yes, I want full transition. And my wife is worried about me deciding to move off and live fully as a woman.
I guess my original post was to justify the meeting of someone like me and a bond got started. She definantly said she could see me with a post-op Female.
I never tried to do that or make her feel that way. So if that happens, I have cheated on her by my feelings. But she stated that if I did find that to please tell her before anything happens.
And your right. She had stated that if I can start HRT per doctors ok, we may both decide the isn't for us. But right know we don't know, we want to travel the course and see what happens.
Before the discussion on this forum and the fees back I recieved, we did not talk about it much. So I sat down with her and realized why she was loosing intimacy with me. And we discussed the effects of HRT on me. She is older than me. And get libido is declining. So for her, the security of a relationship with a loving partner is what it's about. Since she isn't into females but has never experienced anything like me before, she isn't so sure that it won't work.
So here we are today, for today, she is a GG and I underdress everyday to work
Plus wear what I want to when I get home. What tomorrow brings, well, that's tomorrow.


I've really screwed this post up again!

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Lena
I want us to work.
But like my wife has said. I may get out there attending a meeting and run into "whoever charming".
I wouldn't want to be intimate with them.
But if we hit it off because we understand each other more than my wife will understand me, I feel I'm cheating on her.
But she sees it different. She sees it as someone that she can never be. And would go her separate way for me to be happy and more complete,sort of speak.
Does she just want a BFF relationship with the woman that used to be her husband?
We don't know, we have never been down that road together. When we do a the road forks, one of us may take the forked path.
You're right. I'm taking in all that's said her. But I start therapy next week with a gender specialist. My wife is willing to participate.