Since a year or so ago when I started dressing again after a 20 year sabbatical, I've struggled over whether to tell my wife or not. On the one hand, I hate the lying. On the other hand, I was worried it wouldn't go well.
Well, tonight I told her and I'm worried I've shouldn't have. She's stunned. She's upset. We've had tears. She doesn't like the fact that I've messaged other people on this forum and posted pictures. I just hope she comes to terms with this. I don't think she's going to leave me or anything, but I worry our marriage will never be as good as it was.
I followed the advice of others. Said there's something I need to tell you. That I've been crossdressing for the last year or so. That I'm not gay, I don't want a sex change. I then explained how this started at about age four, carried on intermittently until I was a teenager when it became more common. The desire faded in my early 20s (before I met her) only to come back in my forties. I told her about a recent dressing appointment. She wasn't too keen on that. She asked if I had met up with other people or gone out (I haven't).
I'm feeling a bit vulnerable right now.
Edit: Please see post #54 for update