I was reading another thread about purging and I am curious about those who started back. When you decided to dress again did you start with one or two items, panties or pantyhose for instance or maybe some makeup and just kept adding over time or was it a leap into the deep end total pink fog wild shopping experience and full dressing and makeup?
I purged after my first wife asked for a divorce. I stopped dressing for 10 years. When I started again, it was very slowly. stocking and panties, then added a garter belt, then a few more pairs of panties. It was almost a year until I bought a wig and breast forms, but from there, BOOM, I had a full wardrobe and makeup in a couple of weeks. For me it was once I could see "Laura" through my male facade I fell in love with her again. I've promised myself to never purge again. Lets hope I never have to.
Laura, over the past 35 years I have purged so many times I can't even count, at this time in my life I buy my clothes and sexy underthings for my own pleasure and keep them in a private place.I feel sexy and stimulated when I'am dressed. From your picture you look beautiful don't quit , very sexy!DevoneOriginally Posted by Laura.Taylor
I've always been reasonable about spending for girly stuff. As my income varied over the years, so did my transformation budget. I started again after a purge with what interested me, or compelled me, the most. Some may find it strange that dresses, skirts, tops, and lingerie were not at the top of the list. Instead, it was high heels, makeup, wig, fake nails, eyelashes, and pantyhose. After those, the clothing.
I've recently bounced back from a purge, it's definitely not recommended. I've jumped back in with both stilettos and planning some time out, the only thing, I think I'm now missing, are breast forms x
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ress-and-heels
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OMG!! Owning my femininity .... and I LOVE it!
It would always begin with stockings, usually a pair of pantyhose. Then of course I would need a bra, then a skirt, then heels and a top. Then a bigger box and better hiding place.
Thank God those days are over.
After decades of hiding and a number of purges I finally came out to my wife and she is fully accepting. Now everything is where it belongs, in my closet (where I used to be) or in the dresser. No more hiding, no more purging.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
After my first wife and I where divorced, yes most of my clothes where thrown out
not by me, but the EX when I was not home.
It took me about 2 years to get back into dressing. I started with some girdles,
long line bra's then to pantie hose, and panties. I must admit it was about 5 years
before I bought a skirt and a top.
Now, the sky is the limit, and my closets are full
Rader
It would always start off slow and with smaller items like bra, panties, panty hose, but after a few weeks the bigger more expensive things would follow (dresses,heels, etc).
Basically I would try to replace all the items I purged as fast as I could. Not the best plan.
I always seem to have a chicken or the egg challenge. Years ago I was comfortable underdressing now I find that unless I am dressing fully with makeup and wig it doesn't seem to be enough. Big deep dive.
Simply reach to the deeper recess of my closet and got the things from where I put them. I was not all-knowing and I'm not trying to brag. I was fortunate enough to have heard of purging before doing anything rash. perhaps the hoarder in me just couldn't throw anything away. what I am pointing out here is something many of us know. in the beginning there were times we don't want to dress anymore . we're confused. Want it to go away. so when those moments came along I pushed genifer further out of sight. Then, when the inevitable happened it wasn't too far to reach back and get her.
That's the problem with obsessions, they become bottomless pits, impossible to fill. It's hard to stick to a budget or create boundaries...
only one purge, and the result was to spend hundreds of times more - mothball but don't purge unless you're ready to spend a lot
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
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Panties were always the easiest to procure. I started catalog buying back in the early seventies. So panties, a bra. An all in one control briefer/corset/girdle whatever you'd call it; Playtex made several with a panty bottom and a zip up the front for decades, which whittled down my figure a bit, it also had garters for stockings (unfortunately, no one makes this anymore, the closest aren't even close to being as shaping as the Playtex design was, nor as comfortable). I'd look for a camisole and tap pants. Pantyhose. A full slip. Then a maid's or nurses dress. Only for the past 10 or so years have I been able to find girl shoes that fit giant feet.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
I'm just re-emerging from a purge (I had loads of stuff) and long lay off (four years or so) mainly due to the fact that my wife and me adopted a little boy. It's going to be a while before it's feasible to dress I think, though you never know. I'm considering starting with a couple of outfits, one or two pairs of shoes and a small amount of makeup for one look (plus purloin my wife's if need be and a wig, but that would have to be one that really suits me.
Interesting reading I have never purged and often wondered why someone does that and what drives them to return.
I would start with the basic bra and panty work from there.
Yes, that's foreign to my experience also. Generally it would seem to be one of two things:
- Out of sight, out of mind. The translation would be that if the means were eliminated, the urge would go away, or at least it would be easier to manage.
- Doing it for someone else in order to keep a relationship together.
However, from what I've read here, when the notion comes back it is often stronger than it was previously. That seems to surprise a lot of people.
My guess is that all purging does is put a Band-Aid on the wound and sooner or later it is going to fall off. I think it comes back because those feelings and desires eventually demand to be satisfied. They can only be put off for so long and evidently there's no way around it.
DeeAnn
I purged to pacify my wife. I returned for the same reasons that I (and many others, if one believes the posts on this website) entered originally.
I have only purged once. I am too much of a cheap a** to try that again.
I have purged perhaps twice, regretted it and came back. I'll probably never purge again. What a complete waste of time!
Purged once only to have my wife find me depressed and listless . After WE spent hundreds of dollars replacing slips, skirts, bras, & etc., if or when my purge urge hits she yells stop. Her cure for my "problem" is a little retail therapy at the nearest lingerie counter.
I am still recovering. I am slowly getting clothing, mostly from Goodwill; wigs and makeup are next. And rejoining online groups (URNA, Flickr, crossdressers.com) is part of it, too. Baby steps still.
Kris
K:
What you said is a perfect match for the phrase: "It is a journey...".
DeeAnn
The only purging I have done is to get rid of things that do not fit, do not look good things out of style etc. Also old makeup gets tossed.
Admit it was a mistake and swear never to do it again.
Outside of a couple times where there was outside influence, Ive never just purged any items on my own accord. I have put things up for long periods.
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