Ambushed

[Tina_gm]

This might be part of the cait effect. Man spends all his life as a man, masculine, athletic yadda yadda, all of a sudden, there starts these little changes, longer hair, nails seems to be manicured..... talk of an laryngeal operation.... the media starts bugging about it, I think most of us knew to some extent there were gender issues going on, but we really didn't know exactly what until the big reveal. Had it been before Jenner, I wonder if such an encounter would have taken place?? Now, they are probably wondering if you are on the same path, or if it is something different. MOST people do not know of any difference of TG. for most, gender is still an all or nothing kinda of thing.

[Allisa]

Interesting point of view there gendermutt, never thought of it that way, thanks.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lisa...

[Starling]

I'm also trans, so it's not like my "straight" life would be ruined by being outed; I intend to jettison it as soon as I can manage it. And I am pretty comfortable out in the world. That doesn't mean I'm eager to be outed to my nearest neighbors, and largely so because of my wife's feelings; but I know they have seen me going about my life, so there we are. Meanwhile, I haven't been confronted, but I've decided not to explain myself beyond saying I'm a woman. I have tried to explain what it means for me to be transgender to otherwise intelligent and sophisticated people, and there must be a wall in their brains, or else I'm just no good at explaining myself in terms a cis person could understand. I've taken to ordering them copies of She's Not There, in which Jennifer Boylan describes growing up with feelings and behavior so much like my own it was almost eerie.

Allisa, I wish you the best of luck. It's so important to feel comfortable where you live.

Lallie

[Alice Torn]

Alissa, i do hope there will be no violence or vandalism done to you or your property, any of the men in your area. Like you and others have said, mothers with children , or more accurately, fathers and mothers can be very offended by the presence of any of us. I am considered an odd loner older man in my neighborhood and town, and few know i dress. Only two folks here i have told. Hopefully, people will have a live and let live attitude to you.