I'm thinking to make plans to go out dressed up, but I don't feel secure going out by my self, I feel if I go out with another person I can be safe .
Any suggestions on how to make this happen?
I'm thinking to make plans to go out dressed up, but I don't feel secure going out by my self, I feel if I go out with another person I can be safe .
Any suggestions on how to make this happen?
Ha, I was going to post the same thing too. I went out at night couple times but never in day time. I dressed up, put on my make up, thinking that I want to go to cafe and working from there, but I chickened out right before i stepped out of the door.
Some girls suggested that you can go to TGirl friendly bar, but I am not a bar person my self. So yeah, i still have no idea what to do.
morning, have you tried looking for a local support group, Pflag is one ive attended in my area, you may try meet-up, i just started one in my area but have joined one in PA, gets you out and you might find folks to get out with at other times.....
....Mykell
i dressed like a girl and i liked it!crossdressing...theirs an app for that
I suggest finding a support group close by and starting there first.
You would have a safe place to be dressed with like minded people. From there you could probably find others with similar desires.
The group in my area would meet up for dinner either before or after the meeting and then many of the members would go clubbing afterwards.
I travel often for work and end up in places that are unfamiliar to me. I sometimes post on here which city and when I will be there asking for places to go and hoping to find another to join me.Originally Posted by lyndsayalexis
It would help to know what city you reside. There are probably many of us in your area who can point you to a group or to go out together.
I lived in central new jersey, I don't know any places here,I here not look for yet
My suggestion is to dress for the daytime and go to the business or tourist section of your nearest city and just walk around like you are at work or a tourist visiting the city (this has the advantage that you won't look odd taking photographs). Another option is a shopping mall. If you're out in the daytime, sunglasses won't look out of place and might make you feel more comfortable.
Security should not be an issue, people don't normally attack other people in broad daylight with other people around.
Women don't usually go out at night to bars and clubs alone so yes, you should find someone to go with you. I can't help you with that.
If your SO is not into it and you don't have any friends who are, perhaps take your pet for a walk?
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I have gone to small towns, stayed in a motel and walked around for a couple of days.
It is as simple as sending a message to a member here. I have done this a few times and each time it was a great success. Find someone who lives near you and drop them a private message. "Hey, I've been thinking about going out to xxx, would you be interested in going with me?" Yep, that easy.
I am actually going out today. No more chicken out. I don't even try to change my voice. Went to panera bread, ordered a lunch and went to the car dealer to do regular oil change. Some people actually did a double look but most don't care.
Finding a support group is a great way to begin your adventures out. Their web site will normally list safe places to park nearby; and lets face it, they're not going to pick a venue in an area dangerous to CD's. Once there, you'll soon make new friends whowill be more than helpful and willing to assist you in your ventures out.
Krisi as ever is on the money. It's the same as going to shopping malls. It's amazing just how easy it is to hide in a crowd. Dress to blend, time of day and age appropriate and it'll be far less fraught than you think.
Who dares wears Get in, get out without being noticed
Look for a support group, or give us an indication of where you live and you might find a friend to go with you.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I live in central jersey, Randolph nj
You started a thread describing how you hid in a closet after getting locked out of your apartment. You said you had to wait for two hours until your girlfriend came home. If she knows of your cross dressing why not have her be your escort. If you're afraid of driving, then let her drive the car assuming you have a car. She can pick up some coffee from Starbucks. Go sit in a park. Take a walk. You really do not have to mingle with the humanoids on your first adventure.
My girlfriend does not want to go out with me ,she say is too busy to do that
If she does not want to go out with you, that's understandable, many of our wives and girlfriends won't do that for various reasons.
If she is "to busy" to spend time with you, that's another issue. She could make time.
I don't really enjoy taking my wife to her doctor's appointments and such, but I go because I love her and I know she appreciates me making time to go. Your girlfriend should do the same.
But, as I posted above, you don't really need a partner to go out in the daytime. Start with this and then work up to the bars, clubs, etc. at night.
central jersey ???? randolph ????? how long have you lived here ???
....Mykell
i dressed like a girl and i liked it!
Around 20 years
20 yrs and you dont know you live in north jersey, http://www.pflagnorthjersey.org/
this is a national group, well run in south jersey, ive gone dressed, male, with and without my goatee, im fluid, everyone is all over the spectrum,
unfortunately ive yet to make any friendships there, everyone is young and most are FtM,
they meet at night mostly.....my wife does not go out with me either so its nice to sit with people who understand....
....Mykell
i dressed like a girl and i liked it!
I would suggest going out by yourself. There are numerous positngs about CDs going out for the first time and the result seems inevitably to be that it was really easy with no problems. A mall would be a good place as people are usually more interested in the stores ratehr than in other people. Put on a happy face and just be yourself. A museum or any historic site would also be a good place to start. Again attention is focused on the displays, and not other the other people.
The fact is that the people around you are not going to be looking too carefully at you and certainly will not be on the lookout for CDs. Don't worry about things that might go wrong. The odds are way against that. Just go out and have a good time!
Do post how your first outing turned out and how you felt.
Take a look:
http://xdressnj.com/transinnj.php
Good luck, have fun! Hugs, Michelle PS - Lived in Randolph six years in the 80's :-)
Yeah go to a mall where you don't have to interact with others. Trust me you will enjoy going out. My first time going out dressed was a big step for me. I went with friends to a club now I go out all the time.
