Have you ever kissed a man?

[Jenny22]

Just curious. Please reply ONLY If you were in full femme at the time. What was it like? Did you feel more feminine as a result? Would you do it again? Did it lead to any other activity?

[docrobbysherry]

Jenny, there's kissing and then there's kissing. I assume u mean french kisses.

Because I've pecked a few men and CD's on the cheek, etc. But, no mouth on mouth.

[Tracii G]

A few times enfemme but I can't say if it made me feel more feminine.

[Chrissi]

Lol, is all I will say.

[Lorileah]

You mean today?

I have kissed many men. It is just as good as kissing a woman except the scratchy beard that I do not like. Did it lead to anything else? Use your imagination

[karynspanties]

Yes I have many times. It is a must before anything sexual happens. It also has to happen during sex!

[Mandy Faye]

Yes, Many times !

[karla2016]

I haven't. But definitely is in my list.

[Exris]

Screw it, I'll reply since everyone else is being so honest.

Yes. Once. I didnt like it.

I have gay friends. One especially that I would trust 100% with everything and anything about me. He is the only person in the world that would not be surprised I joined this site. But even he does not know about the boxes I have in the wardrobe...

Anyway - back on point. The company I work for had an office in Brighton a few years ago and I used to have to visit regularly. So regularly I almost had to move there. For those stateside Brighton is almost like Europe's gay capital. It could rename itself "GayTown" and noone would even notice. The bars I drank in were all gay. The best bar (Queens) was mostly CD on some evenings. If thats your real thing in life then this is one place you should visit.

Anyway.

The worst - grab ass place total 100% hook up bar in Kemptown is The Bulldog. Think of the Blue Oyster in Police Academy. Except seedier if possible. Id go in there sometimes and not interact with anyone. Id play the fruit machine... very slowly whilst drinking. Observing. But not interacting. Never doing that. Why the hell would I do that? Thats down to the gay friend that I trust... he has been insisting for 20 years now "that I must be" as he knows, and is the only person on this earth that knows... I wish I were born differently.

But Im not picking up any desire there. It's seedy and awful. Iv been a few times now. The Queens is a better bar with a better vibe and the CD's are gay - but they are the "just for fun" type and leave me alone to drink my beer immediately without pestering me if ever asked. Never once in there have I had the question "well why the hell do you come in here...?"

But back to the Bulldog. One night a rather nice mid 30's GG started to talk to me. I liked her. Things were going well. Too well as it turned out. After 10 minutes or so she introduced me to her "friend". A similarity aged man that apparently liked me. She was only talking to me to determine if I was sane and safe. Whatever standard the bar for that was I apparently passed. After introductions he asked for a kiss. I pecked him. He asked me to "do it properly". So I did. Really properly. Lasting several minutes and a fair bit of groping each way. I was acting. I hated it. I kept a smile on my face the whole time after that had finished and we kept talking. He was quite keen on discussing what I was going to do to his arsehole later that evening... it was pretty full on. The GG was standing nearby ecstatic that she had apparently made some match up for her friend.

I was a smoker at the time (Iv quit now for several years) so found an opportunity to leave. Asked him to mind my drink (so he felt I was returning) and stepped out for the smoke. I made sure I could be seen outside taking a few drags. Then was never seen again. And Iv never been back in the Bulldog.

My gay friend is WRONG. I took the experiment as far as I was able. He is WRONG WRONG WRONG.

I dont regret doing that. It was a bit extreme. But if nothing else it proves to me that I do know my own mind. And it's not an exercise I will be repeating.

[Gwyneth]

I appreciate noninflammatory posts. I have to say as well that I don't mark myself as gay. Might be moving that way if that is possible. But in the last few years I have enjoyed the company of a couple of bisexual men. I identify as bisexual. And since one of those men was a CD, since him I've wondered if I would want that for my near future. I am perplexed by one thing: I've enjoyed kissing men when its passionate. Maybe its the newness. Strange, but I've found a lot of bisexual men don't want to kiss. Which is making desire to find a guy hard. I've tried a few online "what would you look like as a woman" sites without much success. Looking in the mirror doesn't work well for me either. Maybe soon you'll find me in the "Boy mode vs Girl mode" section soon.

[Julie Gaum]

Would like to make an observation relating to this thread but also relating to those who go to CD "clubs" but vehemently affirm that they are hetero. These comments are not whether right or wrong as they are not and should not be judgmental. While roughly 80% of CDs remain "straight" there are many - perhaps 10% or more who begin to waver, become unsure not only in their teens but also as late as midlife. While some go to local CD groups for companionship there are others who decide to move fantasies up a notch call it bi-curious or whatever. Finding a liaison with a CD at one of these places or even with a male who goes to these clubs for they are attracted to cross-dressing males is not a stretch. The result may be a turnoff or one may find that they were always gay or Bi but never accepted themselves as such. There are also thousands of so-called CD Clubs that make no bones of that fact that they were created as meeting grounds for gay and Bi CDs. Thet becomes very obvious once an internet contact is made. I'm not referring to the latter type of "clubs" but rather the meeting places that so many responding to this thread describe. Point: It may be a completely subconscious move to visit these nightclubs or watering holes but for many it's really putting a toe in uncharted waters.
Did I muddy the waters a bit?
Julie

[Natasha V]

Oh my, I don't kiss and tell. lol just kidding never

[gabriella1964]

Never and never will but as others have said if i was dressed and kissed a girl heck ya . Did have a gay massage guy kiss my check before I could even brush him off, Did nothing for me and wont let it happen again.

[JoanFlores]

Yes, I have, and it feels so nice.

[mechamoose]

I *think* I'm probably the most 'gay' member here. (Registered Bi/Pan, here is my card)

Why is it such a stigma? Aside from all that butch bull-hockey?

I'm not asking you just for you, I'm kinda asking myself.

This isn't the norm if you think if Greece or other old cultures. How did it get to be so 'wrong'?

To the original topic, I have had male lovers who would do everything BUT kiss.

Why is that so outside the lines?

[Mayo]

I have had male lovers who would do everything BUT kiss. Why is that so outside the lines?

If you kiss another guy, it's gay. And conventional (hetero) masculinity, as constructed, cannot tolerate certain deviations from its narrow strictures. Like men wearing dresses...

IMO it's a legacy of medieval Catholic morality, modified by conservative Protestant groups such as the Puritans, Lutherans, etc., re-interpreted by the Victorians, influenced by the fundamentalist movements of the 19th century USA, and given its modern form during the post-WWII/Cold War years.

[summerbunny]

With full tongue .
I felt dirty!
I felt cheap!

I felt that they were nasty.
I did Not kiss back,i pushed away quickly.

My fault sort of since i was dressed like a woman.
Avoid shinny wet lipstick. That tends to attract them.
Tranny chasers don't try to kiss you in the mouth they have other interest.
Things can get out of hand quickly before you have a chance to holler stop.

I am glad i glue/tape tuck so there is nothing to grab.

[GenieGirl]

Just an off the wall thought. But to those who feel the need to feel affirmation from kissing a man that you feel womanly, can you not get the same affirmation from women? I mean if you are into men you are into men regardless of your gender. I feel accepted by women when they see me and are attracted to me as a girl. If a guy kissed me I would just feel freaked out and uncomfortable. So do any of you get this same confirming feeling from a lesbian standpoint vs a straight females?

[Princess Chantal]

My fault sort of since i was dressed like a woman.
Avoid shinny wet lipstick. That tends to attract them.

It is not your fault!!! Because you dressed up as a woman and appear attractive to them, does not give them consent!

Anyhoo as for the question, obviously yes I have seeing that my life partner is also a crossdresser. He was actually my first. We have an open and trusting relationship, so there have been a few other guys that had my consent. Excluding my partner, I have experienced more kisses from women than guys while crossdressed

[Lilly 40C]

Yes, many times including french kissing. Being bi-sexual I enjoy kissing men as much as I do kissing women.

[josrphine]

Yes and did it lead to any other Activity, well yes we went bowling. YUK YUK YUK

[GenieGirl]

A guy kissed me once but it was unwelcome. I was a guy at the time. He knew I didn't like guys. It was awkward.

I have kissed 3 girls as a girl. I won't say how many went past kissing .

[IamWren]

A guy kissed me once but it was unwelcome. I was a guy at the time. He knew I didn't like guys. It was awkward.

I have kissed 3 girls as a girl. I won't say how many went past kissing .

I am not pretty enough as a boy for another one to try and kiss me. Which I am quite ok with. But kissing a girl while dressed as a girl??? Ummmm....

*Sayyidah makes mental note to add something to the bucket list*

[Ressie]

I've been kissed by a few men in the last couple of years. I had a curiosity about that my whole life. I'd guess it's something one would have to experience to really know what reaction will occur. Hint: men kiss much harder than women, they need to relax a little!

[Tracii G]

GenieGirl I did have one GG friend that asked to kiss when I was in girl mode.
We were at the mall sitting on a bench and it was nice as well.
It was one of her little fantasies to kiss a girl in public.