I had an epiphany several months ago and while I'm not quite sure what to make of it, it has changed my life in a way that I couldn't have expected a few short months ago.
When I'm dressed en drab, which is the vast majority of my time, I rarely look in a mirror in any critical way. It's just not something that I do.
When I dress, I am much more mindful of how I look and I'm far more inclined to make the necessary lifestyle changes to achieve my goals of having a sexy, feminine figure. My number one goal was to have a flat tummy as it can make a huge difference in even the prettiest skirt. I started eating more sensibly and while I haven't starved myself, I've certainly cut out a lot of unnecessary crap and found that I don't miss certain things at all. In the past several months I have lost 30 pounds, a couple of bra sizes and can now wear even prettier panties. I have always enjoyed pretty bra and panty sets and it seems that the smaller you are, the sexier the lingerie becomes. Especially bras, it seems. While I am never going to wear a 32 or 34, I have always been secretly envious of those who were able to as the really sexy stuff can always be had in the smaller sizes. The larger sizes always seemed a bit utilitarian to me and that's not what I'm after. I want feminine and I'm prepared to do what it takes to achieve that goal.
As a man, I could really care less but as a woman, it matters greatly to me. I want a figure that looks good in a skirt or dress and I've found that it's that desire that has become the primary motivation that I need. It's so incredibly simple that I wonder why it didn't dawn on me years ago. A simple reframing was really all it took.
Has anyone else had this experience?