Hi all. Would love to hear other CDers view on this. I'm married to a husband who occasionally crossdresses (about once a month, once every two weeks). The crossdressing started before puberty and with awakening sexuality, it developed into a sexual thing (it started as something that just "felt good" in childhood).
So from his teens until a few years ago when he came out to me, his crossdressing was his own secret, and it was always sexual, even if it filled other needs as well. Anyway, he came out to me when we just started dating, some four years ago. I was intrigued, a little scared but mostly very honored that he confided in me, and also very proud of him, and since then the crossdressing has always been a part of our relationship. But, in the beginning he was always very aroused as soon as he at all started dressing, but over time it seems it is less and less exciting to him. During our first years crossdressing always ended in elaborate sex, but recently he seems to dress more for comfort and less for the sexual pleasure of it ... I did some reading up, and learned that his crossdressing is called "fetischist crossdressing" (if labelling is at all relevant, I don't know). But why is he getting less sexual pleasure from it? (He only crossdresses in my company these days, mostly because I am usually at home.) Am I in the way? Is he getting older? (we are in our late 30s) Was it the novelty of having another person around that turned him on in the beginning, but now that my being a part of the cd:ing is so common, he needs something else to turn him on?
My question is: how should I interpret his diminishing lust during crossdressing? (I know I could just bring it up with him, but I want to be sensitive, and have him feel completely at ease whatever emotions he has. So I am afraid of bringing this up as it could put pressure on him to "perform" during crossdressing, and the point of his crossdressing is for him to feel godd, so I don't want him to feel any other pressure...)