Do to a post about today being the International Day of Transgender Visibility, I decided to not only go to my Sociology class dressed, but ask the instructor to speak. She was very enthusiastic about the idea.
I was never so nervous getting ready even though I have worn makeup, nail polish, female hair style and clothing to class almost every session.
Walking through campus was as expected. No one noticed. I wore a brown mock turtleneck, tan slacks, flats, a pearl necklace and of course forms, wig and makeup.
As I walked near my classroom, my instructor was outside the class. She stared at me but waited until I was close as I don't think she got it right away. A female student looked at me walking in, smiled and said, "I knew it!" When I walked in, most people didn't notice. There was an older woman there to do a survey. At first she stared at me, then a look of horror came over her. Too bad.
When I walked up to my regular seat, the girls around me smiled and said hi. They were even friendlier than normal. That made me feel good. Even the guy that sits behind me seemed totally cool with it and spoke to me.
After the class started, the instructor informed the class that she had a guest speaker named Christina. My heart raced and I started to sweat. When she called me up, the whole class stared, many smiled.
I have spoken in front of hundreds of people before, but this was really hard and I told them that. Then I told them about the special day and that I felt obligated to speak for us. I explained what it's like to grow up liking girl stuff and the confusion and guilt that we go through. I explained about being heterosexual and being transgendered and how that makes for a difficult time finding a mate. How gays have a venue to meet up, but where do transgendered go to meet a woman that will accept? I had various statistics on transgendered violence, divorce, suicide rates, etc. The class was very attentive and seemed enthralled. Then I took questions and there were several very thoughtful. Two people wanted to know what to look for as a parent. Like I know? I don't think there are any positive indicators.
When I walked back, I received a huge applause and several girls thanked me. The girl next to me said she suspected, but wasn't sure. Really? She must not have looked very close. She did see that I was wearing a pink sweater and makeup last Tuesday.
After class, a gorgeous young woman came up and thanked me, saying how powerful my talk was. Another said it made her want to cry. Wow! Another came up and told me she is a transgendered man and she appreciated the guts it took to get up there. Wow! She has short hair and doesn't wear makeup, but she looks like Tinkerbell. I had no idea. I want to talk to her again.
So, the class went splendidly. It could not have been better in my dreams. The instructor was very appreciative. I'm SO glad I did it. It was like going off the high dive for the first time, then having a perfect entrance into the water.
Now what do I do? Do I continue to go completely en femme? I didn't think of that before the class, but I'm out now, right? Would it be too much to continue to present?