Hi! I don't post on this side much anymore, but a topic that comes up a lot is 'gay'. Am I gay? What is gay? Is he gay? Will I turn gay? Every combination comes up as a topic.
Using my own experience, I thought I would comment on how difficult defining gay is, when combined with variable gender. What is gay?- Read on, and you'll either be absolutely clear, or hopelessly confused. (Common terms in parentheses)
As a male I was attracted to other males (gay). I also married a woman (confused). I transitioned to female, and am attracted to males (straight). I am still technically married to a woman (gay), but we sleep in separate bedrooms cause she's not gay (lesbian). My boyfriend is bi-gender, so when he's male, we are (straight), but when she's female we are (gay, lesbian) even tho' in the past he has been attracted to males (gay). In public, he usually presents male, making us a (straight) couple, but my sister usually sees her as female, making us a (lesbian) couple.
If you even occasionally feel your gender is changeable, and are confused about sexuality, I hope this clears it up.
This is why I gave up on terms a long time ago. Find someone to love, and worry about what to call it later.
N.B. there's a lot of LOL in this post, don't panic!