Sherry,
Good for you. I did not realize the you had been made to feel ashamed in this way. If I was a part of that I am sorry.
I know that when you read articles about cross dressing it seems that it is "OK" if it just satisfies some inner need to be feminine but hints of shame come in if sexual arousal is involved. Sometimes I get the impression from articles etc., that to dress and not feel any sexual urge is somehow a "superior" thing.
Well that is not how I look at it. I love to dress and when I do I frequently/mostly feel sexually aroused. The sight of my female "alter ego" is a great aphrodisiac and I no longer feel at all ashamed or embarrassed by this. I not only love being a cross dresser I thoroughly enjoy it and the sex is fantastic . It is an integral part of my makeup and has been a part of me since I was around 5 years old. Celebrate!!