Ever Feel Silly?

[xNicolex]

OK so even though I feel great as Nicole and I am really comfortable. I sometimes feel, well a little silly. It's weird because I love dressing and even though my GF,friends and family have met Nicole and seem fine with it, there is still a little part of me that say's omg you are crazy I think it's partly the guy in me and more because I have only started to dress less than a year ago. I guess it will feel more normal with more practice I only feel it the most when I go out in public which has only been twice. Also I kinda hate my midriff ok I really hate it. It really adds to the insecurity of being seen as I sometimes feel I look like a cow just wondered if no matter how long you have been a seasoned dresser, have you or do you still feel any bit insecure about your dressing?

[docrobbysherry]

Apples and oranges for me, Nicole. I've been dealing with guilt from my dressing for ages. Just about got past that! Now, it sometimes occurs to me I'm a grown man playing dress up like 6 year old girls do!

Pretty dressers r just like pretty women. We ALL see the tiny flaws no one else ever sees!

Well, in my case? Not so tiny!

[Tracii G]

Not really because it feels right to me to be in girl mode.
Don't worry about the midriff too much lots of women have them.

[iGenny]

Yes, sometimes I DO feel silly. But it doesn't bother me. I smile and shake my head and think, "oh, well... ."

[Closeted Kat]

@nicole I too have felt these feeling occasionally, but they soon pass. Its all part of getting balance I think for those of us newer to this.

@sherry your pictures always look like you are having such fun I'd have never guessed you felt that way.

[Nikki.]

I've never been out dressed, but when I try to think about it abstractly and reason it out, the whole enchilada seems weird and silly to me sometimes. for at least 20 years I did a great job at floating down that river in Africa. Off and on I would try to analyze why in the world I liked wearing what I perceived as sexy woman's clothing, in that 1. I'm a guy, 2. I seriously doubted anyone else would find it sexy, even though I did on myself. 3. I couldn't figure out any childhood event that caused me to want to wear woman's clothing. My childhood was fine. I guess I thought there had to be some causation in childhood since I started around 5 or 6.

Now I accept it as a part of myself, and I will never change this part of me, because lord knows I wanted to many times over the years, and didn't.

So basically for me, acceptance -> given up on the why, and while I still think at times the whole thing is silly and strange, I'm actually at peace with it, and want to go out

[Judy-Somthing]

Sometimes when I'll be thinking at work about dressing up and I'll start laughing out loud, other workers will ask "what's so funny.
I do think it's funny that I love dresses so much, I bought three today......

[Nikki.]

Oh and I'm slightly jealous that you're at where your at in your 20's. I'm one of those 40somethings that has a twinge of regret over wasted youth...college and just beyond would have been a ton more fun had I accepted myself back then and just rolled with it. If you really think you're wired as a CD, enjoy the wrinkle free and minimal responsibility years and have fun!

[Jenniferathome]

...just wondered if no matter how long you have been a seasoned dresser, have you or do you still feel any bit insecure about your dressing?

Nicole, cross dressing is pretty weird. It just makes no sense. Because it makes no sense, I do not try to make sense of it. It just is. So why feel insecure about something that "is"?

[JessieA]

I only sometimes feel like I'm being silly worrying over details of how I look even if just dressed at home. But another part of me just feels like it's a natural trait of my female side. But I never feel silly for actually dressing it part of being Jessica that I truly love.

[MissTee]

From time to time I do feel silly. Like, "What am I doing?" Then I get distracted by a cute skirt . . .

[Robin414]

Some times, but that's why I present 'en tween' most of the time, being ME isn't silly at all, pretending to be a girl though, that's messed up LOL 😂 ☺

And about the midrift thing, honestly Nicole, I didn't even notice, I'd totally give you a hall pass any day!

[Lena]

Often. I mean if you think of it, many women can't wait to get out of the clothes we can't wait to get into.

[Georgette_USA]

Also I kinda hate my midriff ok I really hate it. just wondered if no matter how long you have been a seasoned dresser, have you or do you still feel any bit insecure about your dressing?

When I was a teen and would CD I would sometimes get that feeling like it was so silly/weird/strange. As I got older I realized it was because I needed to be just like all the other girls as I was one.

As for the midriff, that is where I carry a lot of my weight. When buying outfits, I sometimes look like I have a baby bump. Not unusual for women to be insecure on their body and dressing. Like "do I look fat in this" or "is my butt too big". There is NO easy answer for that.

[Jen92]

Yeah sometimes I do feel silly/embarrassed with CDing and do understand. I try to rationalise CDing as follows:
Life consists of (1) being born (2) living (3) dying. You don't get to choose (1) or (3) but you have a big degree of control of (2) so just enjoy living as you want to. It seems you are quite young and have a supporting SO. I am 44 and only in last year have I embraced my feelings and opened up to my SO, who has supported me. The difference between you and me (and others) is that you have the opportunity to dress appropriately for your age, whereas I wouldn't carry off the look of a younger female (I try to dress genuine). You also have many years to get your head around it. Accept its part of you. You are massively lucky, you look great as a female, you are young and have a supporting SO. Many don't have your opportunity. You are so fortunate. You are blessed. You have a fantastic life ahead of you and CDing is just a part of you. You are not doing anything wrong, you are not hurting anyone. Most me have their kink/thing and some of those things are potentially harmful, dangerous, illegal. CDing is either related gender identity issues, or do with a bit of a kink/fetish side of a person. I am the latter but neither is bad nor wrong. Just different. I hope this helps in some way.
Love seeing your pics by the way always great to see your look you look great. Just a last bit of advice. From this site you will realise that you are lucky to have a supporting SO. Make her your no1 priority BEFORE CDing. Don't risk being a lonely CDer. Treat her wonderfully and listen to her !
Jen x

[Kate Simmons]

I've realized that I can feel silly and pretty at the same time. Works for me.

[leannejacobs]

I often feel silly and kick myself for going out, it usually happens a day or two after I've been somewhere public, pushing boundaries as I tend to be drawn to, it is silly, a guy in women's clothes but it's so much fun, as others have mentioned, you're young and have such good opportunities, it's far more accepted in your generation, lap it up and make the most of it.
Just saw your little black dress post, you look great, I see you have concerns with your midriff, there are lots of waist clinchers out there that would deal with that, we are men at the end of the day and don't have female bodies, you have to use what's available.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Nicole , Not really, It's just Who I am and it's just what I do......

[PattyT]

I don't feel silly when I'm out and about en femme. This may be the result of years of crossdressing. I do feel a bit silly in drab. I belong en femme not in drab.

SamanthaSometimes stated:

"I completely understand your feelings but my feelings were not so much silliness but rather intense curiosity as to why I enjoy dressing as female. However, over a long period of time, after better understanding myself and accepting that some femininity is a part of my personality, I don't feel 'strange' any more"

I can easily identify with that. Perhaps I may have felt a bit odd at the very start of my CD career but that passed quickly. It's all part of the process of becoming a full fledged CD.

[SamanthaSometimes]

I completely understand your feelings but my feelings were not so much silliness but rather intense curiosity as to why I enjoy dressing as female. However, over a long period of time, after better understanding myself and accepting that some femininity is a part of my personality, I don't feel 'strange' any more. I supposed if we could ask a butterfly why it migrates, it would say "It's simply who I am and what I do" without any rational explanation. I'm now that butterfly and you too may reach that conclusion once you have dressed over a longer period of time.
Best to you Nicole.

[alwayshave]

Do I feel silly in that even when everything, makeup, dress, walk, is as perfect as it can be, I don't pass, yes I feel silly. But I love it so much more than I feel silly.

[CarlaWestin]

Yeah, silly. Right!? Sometimes I'm going for silly.

[Beverley Sims]

I sometimes think, "Why am I doing this"?

I ask the question and then move on, I think that is all you can do.

[Karine]

Of course I sometimes feel silly. Crossdressing is very uncommon and I think nobody knows why we do that.
But I just try to keep in mind that I am not hurting anyone, I am just having fun.

[Jenny22]

Yes, silly, but a good silly such as when i'm selecting a skirt and top to wear .. this one, no that one, no this one, silly. Ditto with jewelry and shoes. Its fun being silly.