Lela, I do appreciate what you're saying and a lot of other people in this forum feel the same way you do. No one is questioning this.
But, here's the difficulty with wanting to be with lesbians. They're not going to want to be with you, because of your genitals. They'll look upon you as a man, no matter how much you tell them that you have a feminine identity. That's what lesbian means, female-on-female, not male-with-feminine-identity on female.