help! I am a lesbian stuck in crossdressing mans body

[Sara Jessica]

It embarrasses me to identify as male, because it feels absurd for me, i.e. dishonest. But I don't need to dress up my vehicle/body to be aware of my feminine identity. I often have a strong desire to dress it up, so it looks better and makes me feel more authentic, but so far it doesn't seem to be a "need". My need is mainly for "female" or Lesbian companionship. Apparently, Teresa understands some of this.

I too feel a significant degree of embarrassment and reluctance to refer to myself in an overtly masculine manner. But identification as a female does not make one a lesbian. To take on that distinctly descriptive term and throw it around as you are based on some sort of fantasy is simply absurd at best and frankly, it is highly disrespectful.

You are not a real lesbian. Take meaningful steps towards transition and perhaps others will buy into your erroneous self-perception (versus your self-perception being less erroneous).

[Teresa]

Sara,
I feel your being a little harsh in your comments, whether your think it's an erroneous self-perception or not is immaterial to feelings we have inside. Maybe we are still denying we are TS , I feel if I were to go through with it I would feel exactly the same way, then I would be nearer to how my mind feels on this issue, the fact I chose to remain male doesn't alter those feelings.
Again if you don't experience them then you won't fully understand it but please don't decry other people if they have those feelings, maybe that is being disrespectful .