Sissy moniker

[Tracii G]

I have seen a few more members with the word sissy in their name.
I have often wondered if sissy means something to these people or if its used more by people that are not in the USA to describe a trans person.
I understand the fetish for sissy clothes but thats not what I am asking about there.
I do know that if someone called me a sissy I would be offended because I don't feel I am a sissy as in the dictionary definition.I may be gay and TG but I'm not a classic sissy as most people here would view one.
Just to let you know I'm not the type to get offended easily and I can put up with a lot of harassment before I will go off on a person physically.

[jenni_xx]

You say that if someone called you sissy you would be offended.

Is the reason you would be offended simply because you are not sissy, or is the reason you would be offended is because you don't like what the word "sissy" means to you?

[Tracii G]

I thought I made that pretty clear Jenni I would not consider myself a sissy in the classic sense and yes sissy to me is a derogatory term.
Yes I'm a male and yes I'm TG also gay but its the connotation of the word sissy.
I find being called a "pussy fag homo" just as offensive.

[jenni_xx]

Have you ever been called a "pussy fag homo"?

|Is it that each word "pussy" "fag" "homo" is offensive to you or is becomes offensive when all three words are used together?

Or is it not so much the words themselves that are offensive but rather a particular person who uses these words towards you in order to cause offence?

[Mykaa]

Sissy what a term, ok I'll throw in my 2 cents, am I a Sissy? I dont think I am. I grew up in a house where my Mother never quit, she worked hard, always tried and still does, My Dad, threw in the towel repeatedly, so you tell me who is more important to me? I see women as strong, beautiful creatures with a lot of advantages in this world, is it envy? Maybe it is. Just like the old saying, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery, I got scoffed at by the ex when I said that.

Sissy by definition - Merriam Webster a boy who is weak or who likes things that girls usually like

: a person who is weak and fearful, an effeminate man or boy; also : a timid or cowardly person

sissy adjective

Ok maybe I am at least partly, lol I do like things girls like, am I weak, definitely NO, what do I fear? losing my friends or my job because of this, other than that, I feel confident in saying Im not afraid anymore. Effeminate, maybe in appearance at times, wearing the clothes, I am happy, Depending on what I wear is relative to the feeling I get, when I go out, I feel good, I feel "man pretty" I do get looked at, I like it, do I feel humiliated? Nope. If a girl can say "tell him Im single and ready to mingle" how bad do I look? Id say I look pretty good,. I feel confident also, just to elaborate on my look, girl jeans, plain pocket, button down shirts, like french cuff,Sometimes I mix with a nice mens T shirt. I have a nice Guess Leather jacket I wear if its cool enough, usually wear womens belt of some type or another, ladies puma shoes or I have Guess western boots I wear out. Am I weak? maybe not as strong as some but I wont take a butt kicking just doing nothing, back me in a corner and yes your going to have a fight on your hands.
So for the record, If Im a sissy is it a bad term? maybe not so much, it implies weakness I think anyone here would argue whether their weak or not. BTW I also have a closet full of Dresses and other nice womens clothes, a drawer full of lingerie and today I can say Im happy being me!

[Alexa CD]

Fiona is quite right. Going by Mykaa's post I'm practically the definition of a sissy. I'm not really afraid to admit it, but I'm not going to just take on the label either.

A boy who is physically weak and likes things that girls usually like? Check. An effeminate male? Check. Timid? In a more masculine situation I'd say so, although mentally I'm actually quite a capable mind in terms of personality atleast. I'd definitely say I'm at the very least partly a sissy as described in that comment. It's just who I am right now, I'm not in love with the negative connotations of the word sure but I'm not going to deny who I am. I like who I am, and I'm not going to change myself because of a name or the thoughts of other people.

[Martha G]

To me it is a terrible word.

I always thought that it meant an effeminate boy or man.

But when dressed I am a mature woman called Martha. I look, dress and act like a woman..

I am not an effeminate man in a dress - I am a real woman called Martha.

It's a very terrible word.

[Dana44]

I have to agree with Tracii, sissy is not a good word for any of us but perhaps the times have changed. I know the word has been used for a sissy boy who is being dominated by a girl. But for me sissy is a no no word.

[jenni_xx]

I have to agree with Tracii, sissy is not a good word for any of us but perhaps the times have changed. I know the word has been used for a sissy boy who is being dominated by a girl. But for me sissy is a no no word.

For you it is a no no word. For me I would never use it either.

I'm playing devil's advocate here. Just because I don't like it, does that mean that someone else shouldn't use it? In this respect, I think Tracii's question is a really interesting one, and I'm only trying to delve deeper into it.

[Lorileah]

Just because I don't like it, does that mean that someone else shouldn't use it?

Really poor argument IMO. It's like the "I can say because I own it" mind set. Like you get special privileges just because you are in a subset. To me it falls with any other word that has been used for years to marginalize people. Every minority has had these words, and they were used to make the person less than whole or less than equal.

Now I do understand that a certain number of people role play in that genre. I get that they like to be seen as sub (I belong to the BDSM world myself). But honestly, I find being called that offensive. Maybe if I was in that circle and presented in that manner it would be different, but the use of the word outside of the community by those who use it to hurt is just plain low.

All that said, as long as there are those who use it and use it to describe themselves, it will never go away and it will just confuse those who aren't in the community as to allowable usage. Personally, I try diligently to avoid using any word that has a negative connotation for any group of people

[jenni_xx]

Really poor argument IMO.

Trust you to jump in feet first and miss the point.

[LilSissyStevie]

Being a sissy ain't for wimps!

[Mayo]

the "sissy" connotation is used by some fetish dressers. It seems to go along with the common, "forced fem", fetish.

^ This. When I see the word 'sissy' in someone's name (or on a list of interests) on a site that caters to CDs, I automatically assume it's a reference to the submissive/feminized male cross-dresser. And leaving aside any discussion of what that says about societal attitudes toward non-masculine men, femininity in general, and/or women....

It's like the "I can say because I own it" mind set. Like you get special privileges just because you are in a subset. To me it falls with any other word that has been used for years to marginalize people. Every minority has had these words, and they were used to make the person less than whole or less than equal.
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Now I do understand that a certain number of people role play in that genre. I get that they like to be seen as sub (I belong to the BDSM world myself). But honestly, I find being called that offensive. Maybe if I was in that circle and presented in that manner it would be different

I'm of that mind set myself - if you identify as 'A', you can call yourself 'A' if you want to. It's an attempt to reclaim a derogatory term as an identity. But because it is a derogatory term, nobody who isn't 'A' should use it to describe someone. It's usually a minority within a particular group that does so - gay men refering to themselves as [edit](e.g. Dan Savage, to use a well-known example), or trans women as the T-slur - and I most certainly would not use those words myself.

[mechamoose]

Mayo, this has NOTHING to with this thread. It has everything to do with language. Elegant, beautiful language.

I'm friend requesting you just for speech reasons.

[Piora]

I dislike that word. Growing up, being called that meant that you were a "panty-waist" (which ironically, I technically am, now ) or a "mama's boy". It meant you weren't a "man" in plain terms. I grew up in the UK in the 50s and early 60s, so perhaps it means something different to me, than it would others.

[Tracii G]

I grew up in the 50's and 60's too so maybe that has something to do with it.
Yes Jenni I have been called "pussy,fag,homo" in one sentence and yes it sounds funny but when the guy is really angry maybe the attitude has something to do with it.
Granted the guys education level was lacking but offensive none the least.
I was just wanting to get an overall take on the word sissy and what everyone thinks of the word if you are referred to as one.

[Pat]

I think in general any words used with disdain or disrespect are a problem. They could call you a Princeton-educated Doctor of Philosophy, but if they put enough topspin on it, the natural reaction is to demand, "You take that back!" Some people like 'sissy' and use it. No harm.

As to the niceties, subtleties and shades of meaning that people encode into words -- they're generally lost on people outside the field. So some cisgender yahoo is still going to use 'sissy' as a synonym for 'transgender individual.' Nothing you can do about it except get booked on an assault charge.

[larry]

interesting thread. Any of you heard of sissysocial.net ?

[Fiona123]

From Wikipedia: "Sissy (derived from sister; also sissy baby, sissy boy, sissy man, sissy pants, etc.) is a pejorative term for a boy or man who does not conform to "standard male" gender stereotypes."

It's the pejorative aspect that makes the word a problem. I most definitely do not conform to "standard male" gender stereotypes." I do think of myself as a sissy for me it's a term of endearment. It describes me sexually and as a crossdresser.

I hope I don't offend, I really don't mean to. 🌺

[I Am Paula]

I was made to understand it is a voluntary subset of crossdressing, in which one acts very submissive. I have also seen sissy clothing advertised, and it appears like a pre-pubescent fantasy.

[Tracii G]

We all get the fetish thing about sissy clothing and submissive behavior.
My question is how does everyone else like being lumped in with the term sissy just because you dress?

[Robin414]

I'm with Tracii on this one, I get the desire to be refered to as 'sissy' in some circles, that's cool! But MY interpretation of the word is 'afraid to get ones hands dirty, run and hide when confronted by negativity, etc'...I don't think that really describes me at all (and pretty sure it doesn't describe Tracii!), so much so if I were called sissy I'd probably laugh, like if you called me an airplane or a crocodile (OK, I can kinda rock the crocodile look 😉 )

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I've been watching the hard core survival show 'Naked and Afraid' lately and many of these people are ANYTHING but 'sissy' by my definition and if they were called that, they'd probably fall over laughing as well.

[Tracii G]

Great croc make up Robin.LOL

[suit]

in the 50's 60's sissys did not want to kill ducklings children and women for almost any reason. but if truly vial and a deadly enemy would point in there direction for a male , the low brow unfeeling killing machine the millatery industrial machine pumped out , shown on the nightly news killing commies like squishing cheeze dumplings . who controls the media controls you

[Tracii G]

Not sure where your head is suit but lets try to stay on topic OK.