This idea that the trans women on this forum are in some way "superior", or that we THINK we're "superior", to the CD members of the forum has come up a lot in the last week or two.
I've talked to a LOT of the regulars in the TS forum about this, and none of us feel particularly "superior" to you, with one possible exception - the difference in perspective from the folks who are later in transition that comes from being well and truly OUT, and in no way closeted. Not "my wife knows", and not "I like to go out two towns over" - OUT. Some CDs here may meet that bar, and I have no reason to believe that those folks wouldn't share at least some of our perspective on that matter. Aside from that, we're just really different - not better.
So, this question is for the CDs only. Why do you perceive this hierarchy between us? Is it exclusively about things we say to you, or the way we say them? I don't think so - I think there's a lot more to it than that - but I want to hear your opinions. Please, NO TS OR GG responses. CD only.
I'm not going to respond here unless it becomes necessary to push the thread forward. Thank you in advance for your contributions.
Editing to clarify
I got a great question via PM about the usage of the word "out", because many trans women and trans men end up wanting to be "stealth". I think there is value in the word "out" for those who are are more fluid/present inconsistently (like CDs), but for the purposes of this discussion what I mean is, "Living your life authentically as all of yourself all the time and everywhere; no hiding who you are".