Hi All
Im new to the forum but could use some advice.
Im female in my Mid 30's and recently a childhood friend Male who I was getting closer to again (after my recent divorce and him splitting from his long term partner) told me he dresses in underwear/stocking during a text conversation around fantasies, I was surprised but accepting of this information and the trust he placed in me and told him so. Then the next day he said I had misunderstood him and that he didn't dress, he didn't speak to me for a few days and then we arranged to meet up to talk.
He came to my house and we ended up having sex and I told him I would like to try his fantasy one day, when he left my home we were good with each other that was 4 months ago since then he has ignored my texts, blocked me on social media and has got back together with his ex.
I am so confused and I cant talk to family/friends about this as they know him and I don't want to betray him
part of me thinks he got what he wanted (we had never had sex before)
part of me thinks you would only share something so personal with someone you cared for/trusted
part of me thinks he is in denial/ashamed
part of me wonders if he has ever told anyone before
what are your thoughts have you ever reacted in a similar way after telling someone?
would you tell someone if you didn't have strong feelings for them?
is this something you had said when horny and regretted?
or do you think I just got used for sex.
Thanks Mandy x