Does your wife know?

[Andrea Evadne]

Hi all,
I have been married for 6 years, with 2 wonderful children. I love my wife dearly, and she knows full well that I like to wear her panties and dresses when they are off visiting her folks (its unspoken, but she always leaves a couple of dresses for me in the wardrobe. I once got dressed up in front of her, we ended up making out, but she didnt find it at all sexy. She tolerates me doing it, as long is its always on my own. I long for the days when I can wait until the kids go to bed, then slip on one of her dresses and chill out with her. Does anyone have a really accepting wife/girlfriend?

[RADER]

Yes my wife was OK with my dressing; even would order things from
a catalog for me to wear.
One big rule: Do not go out of the house dressed, do not embarrass her.
I Could live with that, I could never pass in any stretch of imagination.
Rader

PS: Welcome to the forum.

[Elizabeth G]

I would give anything to even be in your position. I am currently agonizing over when and how to tell her. Even DADT would be a relief.

Elizabeth

[Heisthebride]

I told my then girlfriend, now wife early on in our relationship. She was Ok with it and said we would see how it goes. That was about ten years ago, now we are married.

Earlier this month we went on a group vacation and I dressed, in public, most of the five days. Last night we walked to a burlesque show together, I was en femme, through our downtown neighborhood. She helped me with my zipper and I helped her. She is now very comfortable with me dressing around her and out with her. She doesn't get "turned on" when I dress but fully accepting is great by me.

I consider myself very lucky.

[sara66]

I told my wife 10 years after we were married. She is ok as long as she does not have to see me dressed. We have talked about me going out of town to spend a Sara day, we'll see. Overall it is better than I expected.
Sara

[reb.femme]

My wife accepts, but isn't thrilled, lets say. However, she often drives me to my group meets and I will/can dress a couple of times a week if I want. She will also help me shopping for makeup, jewellery and clothes I think that makes her pretty special.

Becky

[Maria_mtf]

My wife knows and is somewhere between accepting and tolerating. She's happy for me to wear her underwear during intimate times, but nothing more. However after a long talk recently she is happy for me to wear dresses when I am alone.

We hadn't spoke about my dressing for over a year and we had a long chat about it recently. It was like coming out all over again except this time she was even more understanding than last time. I know everyone says it but I believe communication is key, I am trying to tell her everything from now and so far its working.

It's nice she is leaving you dresses, as long as you are sure that's the case.

[Polypop]

My wife knows but tolerates only kind of DADT, as long as she never sees nothing. If she finds anything it is put away and nothing said, and that's how it'll stay I'm afraid

[Terry V]

Yes she knows and on occations has given me specials things I am into lacy slips and bras and she has picked out some of these for me.

[raeleen]

I think you'll find the total spectrum here, from those who have never told another soul, to those whose wives go shopping and have girl's nights in with them. It totally depends on the couple and what ends up working for them. I think being totally open, and moving along at your wife's pace with incorporating Andrea into your lives will be the key. If she feels like you're always honest and never keeping things from her I wouldn't be surprised if she opens up more one day to it. There's a great blog by another member here named Hannah who has talked about her relationship with her wife and where they're at. I'd suggest you check it out.

https://hannahgotta.wordpress.com/

[Steph_CD_62]

I told my current wife within a week of meeting her. I knew who I was and didn't want to give her a surprise later.

My wife supports me and does her best to tolerate me dressing. I know she would be happier if I stopped.

My wife never says anything when I buy something new, and will go shopping with me once or twice a year.

I can freely dress in front of her, but choose not to do it daily. I do wear panties 24/7 except for when I go to the doctor. I do have one pair of women's skinny jeans and one shirt that is a woman's shirt, but doesn't look too feminine.

My wife doesn't want me going out fully dressed (but I don't want to either), but she doesn't have a problem with my skinny jeans and woman's shirt.

I wear basically lingerie, but do enjoy wearing a maxi dress about once a month. I do not own or wear a wig. I have only had make-up put on me once. I know I could never pass as a woman and I am happy with who I am.

[rachelatshop]

My relationship with my wife is a funny one, as it is not totally DADT, she likes to see what I have for cloths and likes to know about my dressing and even asked me how the cloths feel and how it makes me feel, but she definitely doesn’t want to see Rach. A month ago she was in Berkley, CA and she was telling me about some cross dressing men who would come into the Café, and how she talked to one guy who was very friendly. They didn’t bother her in the least. For a while I wondered why she couldn’t just meet Rach and interact with her as a girlfriend, but I do think I understand where she is coming from. She would always know who Rach really was and would not be able to separate Rach from her husband. She doesn’t want me to go out as Rach, because she is afraid, more for me than her. Because this is where I grew up and know many people and have my business, she is afraid that someone might recognize me and I would not be able to live with the consequences.

[Fiona123]

My wife knows because I told her after hiding it for almost 30 years. Sadly is strictly DADT. I know it's my own damn fault.🌺

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Hi Andrea and welcome to the forum!

My wife knows and is fairly supportive, going so far as to participate up to a point. I came out to her after 11 years of marriage. She will indulge me by putting on a dress with hose and heels when I do, which we call our "fashion shows." She enjoys the smoothness of shaved legs under the covers and appreciates how much her wardrobe has expanded. She doesn't mind seeing me completely dressed, but drew the line at wigs and makeup. I'm hoping her attitude about that will soften over time.

You can see some of our posts dressed together if you look at my history.

Cheers

Gretchen

[Rachael Leigh]

My wife knows, mostly DADT and does not participate, she has seen me a few times but really feels it's not something she cares for and would much rather Leigh was not around.
She knows I go out from time to time as well.

[Nadine Spirit]

My wife knows, has always known, and is fully supportive. We go out together all the time.

[StacyCD]

After I told her it was DADT. Now she has progressed to seeing me dressed around the house. I'd say she is tolerant rather than accepting.

[jaimesilvertv]

Hi gretchen---love your posts....def inspiration.

[SharonDenise]

I told my wife while we were still dating. She accepted and supported my crossdressing for the 40 years that we were married. Unfortunately, she passed two years ago. Since then, I've become much more open about my cross dressing to others. I've told my daughters but they prefer a DADT relationship

[Stephanie47]

Yes, my wife knows. It is DADT. When we were first married we ended up with some "bedroom play" with nylon night gowns and hosiery. She and I enjoyed it. I started buying other nylon lingerie such as slips and panties, which she knew about, but, did not enter the bedroom play. One day our daughter (toddler) open the bottom draw of my armoire and pulled out a vivid red Vanity Fair bra. Well, we had a discussion about that. My wife could not understand why a man, who has nothing to "pack into a bra" would ever want to wear a bra. Well, the bra episode and discussion turned her off to any further bedroom play. She does not know the extent of my wardrobe. Under DADT I have no obligation to tell her. Don't take my advice if you're in a DADT marriage and buying clothing will make a hit on the family budget.

[binair10]

Mine is tolerant (on rare occasions), but it would be wonderful if she would be more accepting.


Julie.

[alwayshave]

My fiancee knows and is encouraging. She has given me jewelry, several pairs of earrings and a pearl necklace. She often asks why I have not dressed in a while.

[Crystal Beth]

My wife knows and LOVES it! She likes to help me pick out sexy outfits, prance around, and take pictures. She calls me her real life Barbie doll She has no problem with me buying shoes, clothes, make up, and wigs

[leannejacobs]

My wife and I have been married almost 27 years and I only came out to her about 4 years ago, this was due to us going through a rough patch where she knew I was hiding something and thought I was having an affair, she knew a few years previous I dabbled after finding my stash of underwear but it still came as a bit of a shock to learn that I dressed fully en femme, it was rocky for a while but now she fully accepts that this is something I have to do, she even encourages me to dress when she knows I need to, not only that, I think she likes socialising with Leanne, I'm much more relaxed and open with her when I'm dressed and she seems to enjoy giving me the time to do it.

she's a fantastic wife and my only regret is that I kept it from her so long, I did go many years where it lay dormant and I never gave it a thought but life could have been so much easier if I came out earlier, I now also have a GG cousin who I shared my secret with, she lives in another city and I've visited her on a number of occasions dressed en femme, she's so accepting and has even asked if I would mind meeting her teenage daughter while dressed, she's apparently very open minded and loves to see people express themselves, I intend meeting her next week when I'm away from home for 5 days, can't wait.

[bridget thronton]

Yes she does - she buys me clothing and jewelry as gifts (I mostly buy my own clothing) - her only concerns seem to be ensuring her family does not find out