It was a beautiful summer day yesterday and I invited some friends and family for a BBQ, but it turned into world war 3. Sorry it's alittle long.
From the first day I meet my sister in law some thirty years back we hit it off, we have become great freinds and I believed if I was going to tell anyone else about my dressing it was going to be her. Well last night the discussion came up about the transgender washrooms and about the transgender person who was the first to throw the first pitch at a professional baseball game.
Well my sister in laws true colours came out, telling everyone that she wants a man walking beside her not a half women, and that if it was to happen in her house to her husband or sons she would make sure that she would get them help and cure them of this sickness and mental illness, because it's just not normal. WOW!
Well my wife pulls out her chair, gives her a look to kill and walks in the house, let's say my wife isn't one to hold back and is not scared to share her opinion. Once everyone left, my sister in law asked after that look if my wife had anything she wanted to say to her. My wife told her she would love to but didn't think my sister in law could handle the truth of what she was about to say, my sister in law gave the bring it on hand signal, I poured myself another drink and sat down to watch the show begin.
My wife started off telling her what a great score my wife's brother was, athlet of the year in high school and how great it is to have this strong man walking beside her. He's so great that when his son was getting bullied in school he had no time or patients that my son and myself had to take him to counselling and when my nephew had a drug addiction, again my son and myself had to take time out of schedule and bring him to rehab, my wife went on about there renovation on there house that her husband didn't like to dirty his hands and that I did the demolition, the electrical, plumbing hardwood floor to save them money on labour. So she summed it up by telling her besides her husband looking good beside her that's pretty much that all he's good for, and if my son and I would tell my wife that we were gay or transgender, she would support us and get us help to live with it, not to cure the mental illness, and that maybe my sister in law should look in the mirror and instead of trying to paint this pretty picture for the public to see what a perfect family she has, maybe she should start not worrying about what people see and instead take some time to repair the problems in her home that is more like mental illness.
My wife asked her if my son or myself came out that we were gay or transgender, looking back at everything we did for her and her family if it would change the way she looked at us, or would she see a mental illness and wipe out all the time and effort we invested to help her family. My sister in law said that would be different because she knows us and knows we are good people, my wife then asked her why she judges other people if she doesn't know them.
My sister in law then apologized to my wife and told her she will be more careful in the future, but when then went home my wife said, it's to bad all people care about is what the public sees and not see the real problems in there homes and people are never going to change.
I thanked my wife for what she was trying to do, and that the ball is rolling but there's still a long road ahead. sorry it was alittle long, I was very disappointed with my sister in law but have to realize there are more like her and there always isn't a person like my wife there to defend us.
to your wife for standing up to her sister,
paula
Your story answered parts for me.
