Bars and clubs are especially dangerous due to the possible presence of angry drunks, alcohol, horny frustrated males, males angry at being "fooled" by their eyes, etc. And always be aware of your surroundings, and who is hanging around or lurking nearby. Never let your guard down just because you think you are in an LGBT friendly area. Not every one in an LBGT friendly area is LGBT friendly. Some may be curious. Some may be angry and looking for someone to assault!
Please tell her we are all thinking of and praying for her.
Enjoy our new life and seek peace
Also, remember that there is a good reason that GGs seldom go anywhere alone. The mere presence of a wing-girl will prevent most assaults.Originally Posted by MelanieAnne
It seems that virtually every assault we hear of involves the following:
1. Late at night.
2. In or near a bar or club where alcohol is served.
3. Walking alone.
My intent is not to blame the victims, but to emphasize that there are steps that all of us can take to minimize the chance of becoming a victim. Never go anywhere alone, don't go to places where people consume alcohol excessively or which have poor security, and keep an adequate amount of space around you. Even in my "safe suburb" I am careful when Mimi and I take evening walks.
Like Eryn,I will say that GG's are rarely alone. Titty dancers have always had the doorman escort them to their vehicle..for a reason. It isn't wrong to ask the doorman,cop,bartender for an escort to your vehicle if you "are fit to drive". Most clubs have a responsible person to assist. Be smart about being out.
I am happy to hear that Amber is doing ok, and pray that she continues to do well.
Just because an area is accepting does not mean something terrible cannot happen. All it takes is one person for something bad to happen.
One of my scariest moments out en femme was in San Francisco. Fortunately I was not harmed physically. I was shaken up by it though. Another time in San Francisco I noticed 2 guys following me and I believe they were targeting me, but fortunately my hotel was nearby so I walked into it and everything turned out fine. I think in tolerant areas we may let our guard down at times. No Matter where you are always be aware of your surroundings and circumstances.
The authorities a pretty sure they know who attacked Amber, but there is not enough evidence or an eye witness to make an arrest. Apparently, in the club a guy came up to the table where Amber was setting and started flirting with her and she started flirting back. The boyfriend of the guy came in and saw him and Amber flirting back and forth and needless to say he was not too happy about. Amber took her beer and moved to the bar to avoid any problems. While she is at the bar finishing her beer, the two guys start to argue and Amber decides it is time for her to leave and she went out the front door. The boyfriend of the guy that was flirting with her went out the side door and everyone thinks he is the one who attacked Amber.
Thanks for telling us the rest of the story. If she had someone with her,perhaps it would never have happened.
True, I would have went with her had I known she was going. I love her to death, but all of us who are friends with her have gotten on to her about her excessive flirting and taking off on her own.
i'm so sorry to hear this news and for your friend. and at the same time i must ask why so many T-girls think it is safe to walk out late at night alone in club districts. Women do not do this, for good reason. Always be in a group.
As to daytime/other areas, I feel it is completely safe to go out alone; i do it all the time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
There are a lot of hate crimes against LGBT people in Dallas right now. Most of them against gay dudes, but some trans have been attacked too. All of them are occurring in the vicinity of the gay / lesbian bars in Dallas. This has been going on for over a year now. The police have greatly increased patrols, but it still happens and no perpetrators apprehended. There have been over 30 such attacks here.
It can actually be more dangerous going to a well known LGBT venue.
Many of us on this blog has already talked the safety issue to death, but I’ll give t one more try.
If you go out with the attitude that dressing-up is all fun and games better think twice.
Day, or night, it’s a dangerous world whether you’re a male or a female.
Use the brains that you have. Park in well-lit places and if you can’t find a safe, well-lit place to park, go home.
If the little hairs on the back of your neck stand up, pay attention. You have millions of years of evolution to warn you whenever danger lurks: don’t ignore the signs.
Sure, go out and have fun but remember when a guy discovers you’re not what he thought you were that attacks (in his mind) his manhood.
Men can be very unstable at times.
Be smart and be safe.
Hope Amber will be okay.
So this wasn't a hate crime, but a jealousy issue.
I'm sorry about your friend and I hope that she will listen to you in the future.
Reine
I pretty much knew it wasn't a "hate crime" right from the start. I knew it had to be either an aborted robbery attempt or a jealous boy or girl friend.
I'm very careful when I go out and tend to stay in friendly areas when I’m alone. I know there are a lot of girls on this site like to go shopping and wander around alone. Longtime T-Girls know how to handle the situation but newbies and part-time girls are unexperienced in regard to being called out in public. It’s awkward when it happens but when it does I’m proud to explain who I am. That makes the other person feel awkward and they usually walk away. But there is always a chance to encounter a bigot that might have a few words to say. This is where it gets dangerous. Also, newbies get embarrassed, lose confidence and show weakness. If you’re gonna wear heels you better know how to fight, carry pepper spray and always have a plan.
Kate
I kind of suspected this. For one thing, we didn't hear enough of the story at post #1. And, I've seen similar situations.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
I didn't know the whole entire story when I started this thread. I found out more information as time went on.
So are we done here? Seems that logically, we know we should be careful out there but since this wasn't really a TG hate or targeted crime, this thread is done for now pending staff discussion
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